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Birth order personality triaits.

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Birth order personality triaits It is easy to wonder how two children from the same family can turn out so differently, with completely different personalities and ways of solving problems. Recognizing the immense influence of family dynamics on young children can clear up a lot of the confusion. For example, eldest children look to their parents as role models for their behavior, and may become perfectionistic as parents expect them to act like little adults. Middle children may become more dependent on peer approval and their friends because they tend to get relatively less attention within their families. And youngest children may use humor as a way of securing their parents' attention. However, birth order actually plays a subtler role than the above examples may suggest. Not all middle children are very gregarious and social, and not all youngest children play the clown. Before assuming that because your middle child is a perfectionist, birth order cannot play a role in your family, you should take a look at some of the factors that may influence how birth order affects your family. ...read more.


Much attention that might have gone to this child will likely be diverted by the special child, and this is something that parents need to watch out for. So, with the exceptions aside, what can you do to parent your eldest child, middle child, youngest child more effectively? We will examine the specific characteristics of each group of children, and make specific recommendations as to how you can improve your children's well being. Eldest children and only children look to their parents as the people on whom they should model their behavior. Often problems arise because both parents and the children themselves expect the children to act like little adults. For example, an eldest child who observes a parent re-making his bed may feel guilty because he did not make his bed well enough, and may also seek to make it perfectly next time. This child strongly seeks parental approval. Oldest children often are very sensitive to criticism, very eager to please, and responsible. Often, in later life, they become very successful - a disproportionate number of U.S. ...read more.


Or, they may realize self-importance within their social sphere, and become less dependent on the family for attention. Either way, what most middle children need most is more attention. Youngest children are most likely to profit from bending of the rules. Many oldest children return from college to find their youngest sibling has no curfew, whereas they had to be home at 10:30 at the same age. Youngest children are often doted on by their parents. However, because they are small, they usually learn to be either an entertainer or someone who stays out of family conflicts, because they are too little to be powerful players in the family. To parent youngest children more effectively, recognize their accomplishments (even though a graduation from primary school may be old hat to you now) and try to stick by your rules. Not all families are alike, and there are certainly other factors that influence how your child will grow and develop. Good rules and a lot of love remain essential ingredients of good parenting. Understanding birth order, however, will help you become more aware of each of your children's individual circumstances, and help you tailor your approach. ...read more.

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