Maturity
Maturity is a personality attribute that describes good judgement. It cannot be equated to education, but education provides maturity. Maturity is the ability to judge whether something is safe or dangerous, good or evil, or prudent or foolish. It is said that wise people learn from the mistakes of others, whereas fools learn from their own mistakes.
Physical attributes
The physical attributes of your personality are a combination of your age and your physical fitness. Some people at age 50 are ready for the grave, whereas some in their 80's may be getting ready for a party. You are as young as you feel.
Task performance
Task performance describes the accuracy and organization with which we solve problems. Methodical people organize and schedule their work to know which things will be done when. Disorganized people do not have systematic ways of approaching problems and may not be able to solve some problems. Error-prone and disorganized people do not have much in common with accurate, methodical people. Disorganized persons are not neat and this is irritating to methodical persons. It is possible for a disorganized person to become more organized, but this requires great effort and changing established habits.
External factors (social)
Control attitudes
How do you get other people to do what you want? You can try to convince them or you can force them. Control attitudes may range from gentle persuasion to downright physical domination or psychological brainwashing. Bullying, intimidation, blackmail, and physical abuse are examples of these dangerous behaviors. Deceit is sometimes used to control some else without resorting to physical violence. Most confidence games use deceit to take advantage of greed or innocence. No stable relationships can be built without mutual respect and agreement.
Egocentrism
Selfishness and generosity are the two extremes of egocentrism. A person who is modest, forgiving, and willing to sacrifice for others is sociable. Greedy, resentful, and arrogant persons are dangerous for a relationship; they only think about themselves. Egocentric persons are seldom generous or kind to others and cannot have good relationships. A good relationship requires both partners to be generous so that their needs can be satisfied without causing either one to feel that they sacrifice too much or that they put more effort into the relationship than their partner.
Emotional expression
In the range of emotional expression, there are introverts who cannot express what they feel verbally and whose feelings must be deduced from their actions, and there are extroverts who are communicative, but whose words have to be scrutinized for truth. This is the dilemma that has to be solved to understand another person. Introverts and extroverts can make good couples, as long as the extrovert does not force the introvert into social situations that are uncomfortable.
Fairness
We develop in a cultural background that establishes our opinions and way of thinking. As we expand our horizons, we meet different people and different cultures that we may not fully understand. An impartial person should be able to see the goodness in people who are different and tolerate their culture without trying to change them.
Leadership
Sometimes insecure people are afraid to make the first move because it may prove embarrassing. Those who take the initiative may do it more out of impulse than out of careful consideration. It takes a combination of confidence and knowledge to consistently be a leader. Leaders may also have to assume responsibility for the actions of those whom they influence.
Successful relationships may be established between leaders and followers. Two followers may flounder during crucial decisions, and two leaders may disagree on the course to be taken.
Physical appearance
We cannot change our physical framework very easily. It is not easy to lose weight or build shapely muscles, but it is now possible to routinely change unsightly noses and crooked teeth with cosmetic surgery and orthodontics. We can modify our appearance with corsets, cosmetics, and fine clothing to improve our self-image and our confidence. However, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and all our efforts may not change the way in which others perceive us.
Team Spirit
Team spirit is a measure of how we fit in society. If one feels it, he or she will be more likely to be influenced by the actions taken by others. The others who cannot experience it from unknown reasons (it is crucial to work with other people in any group) will stay isolated and will have problems with changing their behaviour for better one.
Author: Konrad Durnakowski, EU Student
