Okonkwo's oldest son, Nwoye, yearns for his father's love and compassion and is deprived of the unconditional love a father should provide for his son, but is not provided because it would be perceived as weakness and therefore not manly.

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Jeremy Gelbart

Okonkwo’s oldest son, Nwoye, yearns for his father’s love and compassion and is deprived of the unconditional love a father should provide for his son, but is not provided because it would be perceived as weakness and therefore not manly. Nwoye’s behaviors and characteristics such as laziness and sensitivity resemble Okonkwo’s father, Unoka. Okonkwo loathed his father’s to such an extreme that he swore to himself to become his father’s antithesis. He receives many beatings from his father until Ilkemefuna arrives and teaches him a gentler form of successful masculinity. Nwoye becomes conflicted because, “Okonkwo encouraged the boys to sit with him in his obi, and he told them stories of the land—masculine stories of violence and bloodshed. Nwoye knew that it was right to be masculine and to be violent, but somehow he still preferred the stories that his mother used to tell”(53). When the missionaries came to his village his hope and faith reawakened, but “it was not the mad logic of the trinity that captivated him. He did not understand it. It was the poetry of the new religion, something felt in the marrow. The hymn about brothers who sat in darkness and in fear seemed to answer a vague and persistent question that haunted his young soul—the question of the twins crying in the bush and the question of Ilkemefuna who was killed. He felt a relief within as the hymn poured into his parched soul”(147). Finally, Nwoye seems to have found peace in leaving his father and insensitive religion.

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Okonkwo is driven by his father's legacy of shame and has no use for unsuccessful men. But as he projects his image of strength, we find that "His whole life was dominated by fear, the fear of failure and weakness”(13). The roots of the fear go deep. "It was not external but lay deep within himself. It was the fear of himself, lest he should be found to resemble his father”(13). The novel continues, “Even as a little boy he had resented his father’s failure and weakness, and even now he still remembered hoe he had suffered when a ...

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