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AN ANALYSIS OF MY PROCESS AS A STUDENT OF COUNSELLING SKILLS ON THE FCCS PHASE 11 During this essay I will illustrate how my learning relates to certain theories or models by using a selection and analysis of issues from my journal during Counselling Course phase 2. I will show with evidence, highlighting issues from the journal my developmental process as a student of counselling skills. Throughout this course I have had to challenge my behaviour and responses in professional and personal relationships. The results have been revealing to myself and will be analysed in this essay. The exercises to raise self awareness have deeply challenged my conditional liking to the extent that for my personal development to grow I needed to gain further insight of myself to understand my responses. One of the conditional liking exercises was how difficult on a 1-4 would I find it to accept someone who tells me they abuse children (appendices see 'how conditional is my liking'). My immediate response was 3-4. I started to explore my feelings and reflect on personal experiences and conflicts surrounding abuse. I read Innocence Betrayed Paedophilia, the Media and Society to try and learn more to challenge my response to this question. What emerged from this by the end of the course was that my score of 3-4 was reduced to a 1-2 but not every day. Some days I wake and my personal experiences are forefront when I think of this question and it wobbles to 2-3. But I have raised my self awareness and will continue this learning process. Because of this wobble I would at present, in a counselling situation refer the 'client' to another person as our relationship would not be congruent. I am able to trace this shift in attitude to insights I have gained which are rooted in my experience of life and also the theoretical knowledge I have gained. ...read more.


This did not help and interrupted the flow of speech and his focus of the conversation for M who has post traumatic stress disorder so his concentration level is not very good anyway. The feedback suggested that the first three minutes of settling into the conversation I had interrupted the 'talker' by clarifying what he was saying and asking an open ended question (see appendices feedback on tape). M was talking about many issues to start with so I clarified what I was hearing. I have challenged myself why I asked these questions and came to the conclusion it was not for me. He was narrating about his time in the army rather than talking about his feelings of how he felt in the army. The clarifying and focusing skills I used and then periodically summarising seemed to help M stay focused with the issue and his emerging feelings of the situation. This was when M began to talk about his feelings of how he had felt de-humanised and lied to. This had made him feel isolated and just a number with no identity. I paraphrased back to him what I had heard him say. Although the environment was wrong I feel the conversation, besides having a bad start and interruptions had developed. I felt that after the initial few minutes the environment no longer affected me or him and I was able to offer a relationship with congruence, empathy and acceptance. Carl Rogers (video, 2003) argued from a Humanistic approach that if the counsellor is able to have a relationship with the client these core conditions are needed, and then the therapy will be positive and useful. Also when the core conditions were there it produced a 'presence'. This produces a safe place where deep inner feelings could be explored without judgement and where M was valued and respected as a person going through change. ...read more.


One was really good, the other practically inaudible. The first tape it appeared that the 'listener' misread the facial expressions, and also wanted to make it all better and rosy. Also by putting emotions into the 'talker's' mouth such as that is fantastic for you that you have this support from your family rather than how does it feel for you to have this support from your family? The recording was hard to do for this 'listener' as it was her friend and she desperately showed that she wanted her friend to stop drinking and take the support. Perhaps this is a good example as to why you should not counsel a friend, a reason why the counsellor- listener relationship might not work. 29/05/06 Empathic- Rogers - If I can be as emphatic as when Matthew was distraught in the street not understanding why no one was phoning police when a child was being slapped by its dad, (Matthew saw it as the child being beaten up by an adult). When I looked at situation through Matthew's eyes as he first witnessed this was truly emphatic and I could see his whole picture. 09/05/06 When I was talking in our small group I noticed immediacy on myself - my arms around my knees - I recognised my body language as protection- unsafe- no one noticed thank goodness. I feel this skill that I am learning of immediacy and body language is so beneficial to the extent that I can keep myself safe by noticing my own immediacy and reading it for what it shows. L keeps misunderstanding facial expressions - the unspoken body language - the defence mechanisms - the false facial expressions - she's taking them at face value. (Masks we wear Body Language p 66 smiles). 14/05/06 There was me thinking I could keep this journal up and I didn't. Did I fail -no just need more practice at disciplining me? Right try and remember, Counselling skills phase 2 0402417 11 ...read more.

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