We soon see that what each of these women seeks at the beauty shop is not so much a new hairdo as it is comfort from her fellow sufferers in the struggle with the crosses, both silly and serious, that life has forced them to bear. As the scene draws to a close, an exchange involving Shelby, Truvy, and Annelle, the newcomer to the group, reveals the fundamental nature of life in the salon. Shelby invites Annelle, whom she has just met, to her wedding:
SHELBY. I can't stand the thought of someone being unhappy or alone tonight. . . .
ANNELLE. You're all so nice.
TRUVY. We enjoy being nice to each other. There's not much else to do in this town.
Significantly, Truvy punctures the incipient sentimentality of her remark with a self-deprecating joke: these women are "nice" but not mawkish; they are tender, but tough as well. They are the "steel magnolias" of the title.
The second scene occurs later in the same year, on the Saturday before Christmas. It opens with Shelby and M'Lynn alone on stage, each waiting for her new holiday hairdo. When Shelby tells her mother that she is pregnant, we witness a moment that is typical of the overall structure of the play. The important choices and actions have happened elsewhere. What occurs onstage is the process of adjustment:
SHELBY. Mama. Don't be mad. I couldn't bear it if you were. It's Christmas.
M'LYNN. I'm not mad, Shelby. This is just . . . hard.
Shelby knows that she is risking her life by bearing a child, but she has decided to take that risk. The scene between her and her mother becomes a plea for acceptance by Shelby, and a struggle to assimilate the unsettling news by M'Lynn. What changes is their feelings, not the facts that constitute Shelby's tragic story.
Annelle, we learn, "is settling down and finding her way." After a shaky start in the first scene, she has now mastered the challenges of the workplace, and has taken on the job of decorating the beauty shop for Christmas. "Truvy just turned over the decoration responsibility to me," she announces. "I like themes. And I despise the commercialization of Christmas." Whereupon she reveals the tree she has trimmed with "[t]iny white lights, Baby Jesuses, and spoolies."
As with the first scene, the second also ends on a note of group solidarity, the recipient of the collective comfort this time being M'Lynn.
TRUVY. This baby. That's not exactly great news, is it?
M'LYNN. She wants this so badly. I just don't know . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .. .
TRUVY. Oh, honey. I wish I had some words of wisdom . . . but I don't. So I will focus on the joy of the situation. Congratulations.
OUISER. Absolutely.
M'LYNN. Diabetics have healthy babies all the time.
ANNELLE. It will all be fine.
CLAIREE. Of course it will.
M'LYNN. Thank you, ladies. You're right. We'll make it through this just fine. You know what they say. That which does not kill us makes us stronger.
But the determined optimism of the supportive women proves to be unfounded. In the third scene, a year and a half later, Shelby is having her long hair cut short, a process Truvy describes as a "rite du passage." In fact, without realizing it, she is entirely correct. This transformation in Shelby's appearance is a ritual moment, her way of acknowledging a critical passage in her life that is about to occur: a kidney transplant operation.
The dire warnings of the doctors about the danger of pregnancy for Shelby have come to pass, her kidneys have failed, and she needs to take radical measures to save her life. The next day she and her mother, the kidney donor, will enter the hospital to prepare for the operation. The other women in the beauty shop are devastated by this news, and once again we watch as they attempt to adjust to events over which they have no control.
As on previous occasions, they offer consolation and support:
ANNELLE: God bless you, Shelby.
TRUVY: You're going to be the sassiest girl in that hospital.
M'LYNN. Well, what about me?
SHELBY. You ladies better come visit us!
CLAIREE. I'll be sitting right by your side when you wake up. Yours, too,
M'Lynn. I'll manage it somehow.
The final scene takes place after Shelby's death and is again a process of adjustment to a terrible fact. "[T]his morning I wanted to come here more than anything," M'Lynn says after describing the scene of her daughter's death. And she wonders, "Isn't that silly?" Truvy, of course, tells her it isn't, realizing that what the grieving mother needs is exactly what is available among her friends. And what she finally experiences at the shop is a catharsis she had been unable to achieve outside this intimate sanctuary: "Maybe it was about time I had an emotional outburst. Maybe I'll start having them at home more often. . . . I'm so glad I came by. Shelby would've had a good time here this morning."
We realize with these words that the plot of the play has been a sequence of such moments of healing release, four scenes in which the traumas of the offstage stories are treated with the medicines of friendship, humor, and empathy.