Discuss Jane Austen's treatment of the theme of marriage in Pride and Prejudice.

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Discuss Jane Austen’s treatment of the theme of marriage in Pride and Prejudice

Austen’s view that marriage should be based on a developed knowledge of one another; intellectual and personal compatibility as well as genuine love and attraction was radical for her time. The main views of marriage at the time were that it should be for either economic security of women, because they could not work or inherit, social cohesion, because they were both from the same class, if the marriage was arranged or if the security of financial/land ownership by inter-marriage between “great” families and estates.

Mrs Bennet is introduced with lots of gushing, direct speech such as “But it is, for Mrs Long has just been here and she told me all about it.” This gives the reader the impression that she is slightly nosey and a gossip, whereas Mr Bennet’s character is established with reported speech, making him more in the background of the text, for example when Austen puts “Mr Bennet made no answer.” Simple, short and straight to the point, this gives the reader the idea that Mr Bennet is the same. Mr and Mrs Bennet are an incompatible couple, he is intelligent whereas she is less intelligent and he is constantly putting her down, although she realises and understands the social imperative to marry off her daughters as they would not be able to inherit their father’s money or estate like when Mr Bingley arrives in town and she says, “A single man of large fortune; four or five thousand a year. What a fine thing for our girl!” He has been retreated to a student and allows Mrs Bennet to indulge in her poor parenting and therefore he is a poor parent by default.  Mrs Bennet is very fickle; she changes her mind frequently, like when she first is told Lydia is to marry Wickham. Mr Bennet is always suggesting regret, for instance, his reaction to Lizzie refusing Mr Collins. Throughout the book Austen suggests that they married without real knowledge of each other, at a young age, and that it was based on a physical attraction. These are reasons of which Austen is obviously critical. Mr and Mrs Bennet are an example of what can happen is one marries because of youth or beauty, which Austen describes in the first paragraph of chapter 42, “This is not the sort of happiness which a man in general wish to owe to his wife.”

Austen criticizes marriage without love for either social propriety, Mr Collins, or economic security alone, Charlotte. On page 85 Mr Collins gives his reasons for marrying, he says that it is right for every clergyman to set the example of matrimony in his parish. He also says that marrying will add to his happiness and also that he has been advised and recommended to marry. This is an example of the reasons that most people married for in those days. Austen shows here that Mr Collins has not once mentioned that he wants to marry her, just that he wants to marry, and the fact that he never mentions that he specifically wants to marry her shows he cannot be in love.  When he talks of the “violence of my affection,” and speaks of his “animated language” he could not talk in a less enthusiastic or animated language. It shows that he is clearly not in love with Elizabeth and he is obviously lying about his affection for her. This was common of that time as most people married on recommendation or on social, economic or superficial reasons. Mr Collins also says that as he is to inherit the Bennet’s home, he couldn’t be as happy marrying anyone out of the family considering the girls would be homeless otherwise (when Mr Bennet dies). I think that Mr Collins says this as he knows Elizabeth is intelligent and therefore might see through his façade, so she might be more likely to marry him if he provides a valid reason. Charlotte says on pages 100-101, “I am not a romantic, you know, I never was. I ask only a comfortable home; and considering Mr Collins’s character, connections, and situation in life, I am convinced that my chance of happiness with him is as fair as most people can boast on entering the marriage state.”  In this passage, Charlotte illustrates the opposite view to Elizabeth. Elizabeth is extremely romantic and believes only marrying for love, like Austen, whereas Charlotte represents society’s mass view. On pages 122 and 123 it is evident that Charlotte and Mr Collins are incompatible.  Mr Collins is overly formal and often says things that embarrass Charlotte, as you can tell when Austen says, “Once or twice she could discern a faint blush; but in general Charlotte wisely did not hear” you can imagine that Mr Collins does this often and that Charlotte had become accustomed to it and has now chosen to ignore him. Considering this is only the beginning of the marriage this can only get worse and could become the kind of relationship Mr and Mrs Bennet have.

Lydia and Mr Wickham have a totally incompatible marriage based on lust. They were forced into marriage because of the scandal of Lydia sleeping with him prior to marriage. You could think Mr and Mrs Bennet are partly to blame for Lydia running away and causing uproar because of their poor parenting. They allowed Lydia too much freedom, as she was “running around with officers” from a young age. This is typical of a youngest child to be more rebellious and yet the parents seem to expect it. For example on page 130 Elizabeth tells Lady Catherine that all five Bennet daughters are out at once. Lady Catherine seems shocked that the younger daughters are out before the eldest is married. Elizabeth says that “Yes, my youngest is not sixteen. Perhaps she us full young to be in much company” but because Jane “may not have the means inclination to marry early” the older daughters find it unfair to deny the younger sisters of company and the entertainment that the others find at such events. Therefore this shows that the youngest daughter is more likely to be spoilt as Lydia has because, as Elizabeth says, “the last born has as good a right to the pleasures of youth as the first.” On page 170, Lydia talks of a bonnet that she bought in Brighton. She says, “I do not think it is very pretty; but I thought I might as well buy it as not.”

This shows that she is spoilt and has free rein. She isn’t shown right and wrong, or what is acceptable, this reinforces the fact that Mr and Mrs Bennet are poor parents. Daughters are encouraged to marry rich men so they can be comfortable and secure yet, because Lydia has “grown up” too quickly and is still very immature, whenever Lydia is allowed control of money of her own financed she spend is immediately on things of little need or importance. When Lydia asks her sister what has happened to them all on page 171 she quickly turns to asking whether they’ve has any flirting or seen any “pleasant men” by this she means attractive so Austen is again showing us how shallow Lydia is and how she only cares about superficial things. Lydia also talks of how Jane is becoming too old to marry, and she also implies that she would like to marry young, preferably before her sisters. This shows she just wants to marry quickly and also shows her immaturity, because it reflects a child wanting to win, her parents should have taught her that marriage is not a game. On page 172 Austen again demonstrates that Lydia has not been taught well on how to behave as she is always acting immature and playing games or making jokes, for example when they pretended there was nobody on the coach, which was not acceptable for a lady in those days. She also talks of how she “treated” her sisters to a luncheon, which Jane and Elizabeth actually paid for. This shows she is always handed things on a plate and that she expects things to be done for her. One sentence stands out in Chapter 39, as saying that most about Lydia. It says, “She seldom listened to anybody for more than half a minute.” I think this summarizes Lydia’s personality as it shows that she is very selfish and only cares about what is important to her. Mr Bennet says, “Lydia will never be easy till she has exposed herself in some public place or other, and we can never expect her to do it with so little expense or inconvenience to her family as under the present circumstances” on page 179. This shows that not only are Lydia’s parents aware of what Lydia is likely to do, they expect it. Also it shows Lydia will disregard her family and what’s beneficial to them, just to make herself know and to impress. This is also obvious in Chapter 46, where Lydia has eloped with Wickham. But, this event also shows that Lydia is irresponsible and has been persuaded by Wickham. When Lydia returns as a married woman, the way in which she presents herself shows that she sees marriage as some sort of game with which she might impress her friends. She says, “I though it would be very good fun if I was”, referring to marriage, this shows she has a childish, unrealistic view of marriage, like her game is to act grown up and adult. She also says “I was afraid they might not” and “so that he might see the ring” this shows that by not talking of how happy she is being married and instead talking of how she wants people to know, she has not real feelings for Wickham. By the ends Lydia’s game becomes reality and she is constantly travelling to be away from Wickham “and with the Bingley’s they both of them frequently stayed so long, that even Bingley’s good humour was overcome.” Lydia and Wickham’s relationship was just an initial sexual attraction and infatuation that was forced to become a marriage.

Lady Catherine de Bourgh represents the view that marriage is about “great” families joining up estates and containing wealth. She hints that she intends her daughter to marry Mr Darcy the first clue shows itself when Austen says, “his cousin, for whom he was evidently destines by Lady Catherine” this seems like she almost means to be sarcastic when she uses the word ‘destined’ as Austen thinks destiny is all about love and compatibility. On pages 272 and 273, Lady Catherine talks to Elizabeth about rumours that are circulating that Lizzy is to marry Mr Darcy. Lady Catherine says, “This match, to which you have the presumption to aspire can never take place.” The word ‘aspire’ shows that Lady Catherine thinks Elizabeth is of a lower class or standard of hers or Darcy’s ‘great’ families. She says, “from their infancy , they have been intended for each other” this is an example of one of the reasons for marriage that Austen is so sceptical of, as she believed in marrying for love and no one can be in true love at infancy.

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Jane Bennet and Mr Bingley are an example of good match and Austen approves of their reasons and foundations of their relationship. It is based on personal compatibility and genuine love and attraction. The main point Austen is making through their story is hoe hard it is for genuine love to triumph in her society. They have to overcome many hurdles such as Caroline Bingley, Mr Bingley’s sister along with Mr Darcy tries to stop it, and also that they’re from different social classes. Mr Bingley quickly falls in love falls in love with Jane, as he says, “Oh! ...

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