“He hit me several times earlier in our marriage, but now he goes only as far as he thinks he can to intimidate me without "crossing the line". I told him I would report him to the police if he ever hit me again. I have been trying to protect our daughters from his anger and criticism as much as possible. But I have failed miserably. When my oldest daughter was old enough to vocalize her emotions she said she never wanted to be at home because of my husband's abusive behavior. I knew no matter how much I could take, my children didn't need to be living in that situation.”
This poorly treated woman should definitely not be forced live a full life being continually abused and disrespected. She too should be happy and be able to love again.
There are also examples of western women who have married men of another religion, where they have been beaten and mistreated. Women have no rights in some Middle Eastern countries and therefore cannot divorce their husbands. “Nearly one-third of American women (31 percent) report being physically or sexually abused by a husband or boyfriend at some point in their lives.” You may argue that some women enjoy this kind of harsh treatment, maybe find it arousing. But not many of these women have enjoyed the harsh treatment they have received.
Disrespectful, dishonest and disgusting. These words relate well to the concept of cheating. According to research it is more common that men cheat on women than the other way around. Statistics show that 40% of women have cheated on their partners and that 70% of men have cheated. This amount is surprisingly large! In marriage you promise to, “in sickness and health, to love and to cherish till death do you part.” Is it loving to cheat on your spouse? Does it express your affection? Cheating should definitely be a cause for a divorce. Nobody deserves to share their spouse with another.
Divorces are not a good way out but cheating isn’t going to make your marriage work either. If one cheats on the other, there is no longer love left in the marriage. “All good is hard. All evil is easy. Dying, losing, cheating, and mediocrity is easy. Stay away from easy.” -.
What about fighting and arguing? If there is too much fighting, too many disagreements, its time to move on, get a divorce and find someone else. You may claim that if there is children involved its too complicated and its unfair to the children, but being a divorcee kid, I have every right to argue this point. My parents got divorced mainly because of too much arguing, but also because my father cared for other things more than his family. I am not glad my parents got divorced but I think it’s better than if they’d stayed together. I am happy, my dad is happy and so is my mother. People should not be married if they do not love each other.
A marriage involves two people, usually a man and a woman. Both parts should play an equal role in marriage. “Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate.” A man called Barnett R. Brickner writes this, if only one partner puts an effort into the marriage, it will fail. So if you don’t want a divorce, start improving the man in the mirror, if you are not willing to change yourself, don’t expect life to come easy. Divorces are a good necessity if it is for all the right reasons.
