Anyhow, having two happy parents in a family will even reduce divorce rates. Happy parents don’t get divorce, and the offspring’s of that family are likely to have a successful marriage themselves. Strong families share positive values with each other. Children’s learn from their parents the good qualities of a family. It’s not always true though, the family may not be the best and there may be some bad qualities that are easier for the kids to pick up and apply. That’s the reason we should be willing to keep and maintain traditional families.
Having good qualities and values help couples stay loyal with each other. It reduces the amount of arguments between them. It will make them think about their children before getting divorce. They will think about the effects on their children because they represent the future of the society and negative consequences for them are significant.
A happy loving family always sticks together to determine important decisions and compromises without fighting. An example of this is sitting down with their kids and talking to them about drugs and alcohol. Also, parents always check on their kids to make sure their grades are up and on weekends they come home according to their curfew time.
Even when times are hard, like family crises and money problems, they will always work on it together. A strong happy family always makes decisions, solves family problems, and does family activities together. For example, everyone participates, parents are the leaders, but the children’s opinions and efforts are encouraged and appreciated. The parents let you make suggestions that are meaningful and cooperative. For example, they let you decide family vacation spot. Making suggestions is an excellent way to practice making decisions and help kids grow up to be responsible adults. It also tells them that they are important and what they say counts.
Furthermore, respect between family members increases the rate of happiness. Caring and appreciating each other strengthen members of the family. When a family member makes a mistake, the family always encourages and supports the person instead of making them feel bed. Listening while the others are talking is one of the positive aspects that a traditional family has. They pay attention to each other’s positive behaviors and something nice he or she did. They take time to listen and respond adequately to what the other has to say. They respect each other’s decisions and give each other privacy when the time comes.
Next, families always encourage their children’s dream so they can have a good future and a family of their own. Parents give their children’s one of the best gift any parent’s can. They give an example of life that is lived to its fullest potential. Parents are the best role models to encourage our dreams. They give us compliments and pride on our achievements and they teach us how to be a responsible adult. They teach us the values of life.
Parents help kids stay on the right path. “ For many kids, gang is their family,” says a social worker. It’s not the killing that draws the kid in to the gang but the brother-like bond and the security they offer. A nuclear family already offers love, acceptance, trust and safety to their kids so they don’t have to go looking for it elsewhere.
In addition, the kids are taught to hang out with good people and make good friends. Parents know what is right for us and what is not. A traditional family will go through anything to keep their children’s on the right path. Every parent wants their kids to grow up without difficulties and teach them about adulthood so they can have their own family someday.
Preserving traditional families can reduce the crime rates. The connection between family members becomes so strong and powerful that they prevent any crime that once would have been so easy to put in action. The love and respect they receive at home and from friends prevent them from doing wrong actions. Statistics show that children from single parent homes are far more likely to get involved in crimes than those growing up in traditional homes. This is because the parent is busy and he or she pays less attention to the child, but in two parent homes the kids receive more attention. The more you teach them, and the more attention they get the better their futures are going to be.
Also, families who have rules and boundaries function properly. Rules are limits on what we can and cannot do in a family, and a strong family definitely has rules. Taube Kaufman wrote a book called “The Combined Family.” In the book she talks about enforcing rules and that limits are on of the most important rule that should be in every family. She writes, “ Limits serve as boundaries, like the walls in a room. They can be bounced against, but they will remain standing.” These are the same boundaries that children’s need when they’re growing up and a traditional family has them. All the rules are not fair but it will and does keep that family together. For example, in Ruti Patel’s family (a senior in high school) they have a rule of controlling their anger, but it doesn’t mean it keeps them from getting angry. It tells them that if they get angry and don’t control their anger they will be breaking the family rule. Even divorced families have rules in the same way two parent families do. Another rule Rutis family has is that they cannot walk away from their family. It doesn’t matter what condition the family is in. They’re all part of the family and whatever happens they need to go through it all together. By this rule Ruti feels like she is loved and her parents wants her to stay together and help her with her problems. Traditional families have rules not to hurt but to keep a family in a good condition.
No law, science research, or logical methods are going to help make this true. We have so much technology today that we don’t care about anything or anyone else as long as we get whatever we want. Our greed, ego, and our needs always get in our way. Just think about it, a nice family and kids that look up to you. Everyone wants it, but nobody is willing to work for it. We know this will improve the future, but you can’t expect your family to be perfect without working for it (no work no gain). Today’s society has become so lazy and careless that they don’t care about the future. I wonder what the future will be like.
