On the other hand there are some basic elements that make us who we are today. Most importantly is the family and the relationship between the parents and the child. The environment and the society plays a huge role depending on where a person is living. A person who has been given all the love from the parents will often have more successful relationships than a person who never got that kind of attention. But there could also be cases where people with a bad childhood have made them more determined to have a good future. Besides, environment and society must be considered having great impact on the individual. We all have situations in life where we need to adapt and change our values, for example when we get to know other people, change school or hometown. Howell we manage to handle these changes because of our self-esteem. How many people remember how they got their self-esteem?
None of them, because it probably comes from our childhood.
Furthermore there are scientific theories based on psychological explanations. According to the famous Erikson theory about the psychosocial process, there is a specific theory named “the 8 ages of the human being” which describes the fact that people goes through different phases throughout the lifetime. Every stage provides us with qualities for our personality, depending on how we are raised by our parents, treated by others and the circumstances we live in. Things like trust, confidence, independence, moral and conscience are progressed from our first years of life in either positive or negative directions, to become a basis for us later on in life when we get older. An example is children in ages between 3-6 years, when they are mostly curious about exploring and challenge everything surrounding them. If a child is allowed to try new things and get the chance to make mistakes, then he will learn from his own experiences and become courageous. In time this means that he develops not only an ability to differ right from wrong, but also a form of independence, in contrast to a child who is overprotected and afraid of trying things out of what he is used to.
There are people with opponent opinions, claiming that the way a person is has nothing to do with the childhood. When arguing about it, their main argument is that there are children whom did not live in good conditions during their growth, for example by having abusing parents. But still they did not turn out to be equal to their parents and did not raise their kids in the same negative way. In that case, the childhood will not be what makes a person. This can be explained from my point of view as well. I believe that when one person have gone through hard experiences in their life, they are certainly aware of what kind of negative effect those happenings had on him. That could affect the person to act in a different direction later on in their life. So if for example his parents treated him bad, he will not treat his children bad because in his mind it is not accepted. Therefore, I am convinced that the childhood provides him with the information he needs to make own decisions in the future.
Everything needs a base to begin from developing, or else nothing can exist. That is a principle concerning human beings to. Our childhood sets a base for our present and our present will be the base for our future. Each childhood learn us a lot such as knowing what is right and what is wrong. Important elements makes us who we are today, without a family we would not be anything. The fact that our childhood defines us as adults is explained in both scientific theories and analysis from peoples own experiences.
Personally I think that our childhood makes us who we are today because the way our parents raised us up and taught us what to do and not to do. All the aspects we had back then comes along when we grow up and becomes a big part of our personality. I also believe that our past keeps following us no matter what, we can try to do the best of it by learning from the mistakes we have done which will only make us either stronger or weaker as a human being. Also we all have childhood memories and we have them for a reason that could be something we have done, felt or learned from. After every rainstorm is sunlight and after every mistake there is a lesson learned. Our childhood defines us as adults and so does the decisions we make.
