Juliet now knew there was no way her and Romeo could be happy unless they run away together, so she returned to Friar Lawrence threatening to kill herself if he didn’t help. Therefore the other reason why Friar Lawrence could be to blame for the death is because, He advises Juliet to agree to the marriage with Paris, but on the morning of the wedding, she will drink a poison that he prepares for her. The poison will make it look like Juliet is dead and she will be put into the Capulet burial vault. Then Friar Lawrence will send Romeo a letter so he can rescue her,
“Shall Romeo by my letter know our drift”
But Friar Lawrence did not consider the fact that Romeo will not get the letter, and then the bad news travels fast, Before Friar Lawrence letter could get to Romeo. Romeo hears from someone else that his beloved Juliet is dead and this causes him to buy a poison and go to Juliet's tomb, Romeo drinks the poison and takes his last breath next to his sleeping wife. Moments later, Juliet awakens and sees Romeos dead body and then kills herself with his sword. So therefore if Friar Lawrence never gave her the poison or if he made sure Romeo found out about the plan then none of this would of had happened.
Lastly, Friar Lawrence could be blamed because he should have been there in the tomb to stop Romeo from killing himself and from Juliet also killing herself. If he had been there like he said he would,
“And hitter shall he come, and I will watch thy walking”
If he had done this then Romeo would have never taken the poison because he would have known that Juliet was not really dead. Friar Lawrence said that he was going to be in the tomb waiting for Juliet to wake up, but he wasn’t. When Romeo killed himself, it was just moments before Juliet woke up, so Friar Lawrence should have been down there to save both of them.
It could also be argued that Romeo and Juliet were to blame for their own deaths. The reason for this is because they are both too young and immature for a serious relationship. Romeo and Juliet were also extremely impatient and were in a rush to do everything.
Romeo has a very irrational and hasty personality. At the beginning of the play, he claims to have fallen for Rosaline, and he is all weepy and sad about his love for her. But then when Romeo meets Juliet, he immediately forgets about Rosaline. The following quote shows this:
FRIAR LAURENCE
God pardon sin! wast thou with Rosaline?
ROMEO
With Rosaline, my ghostly father? no; I have forgot that name, and that name's woe.
Also, Romeo could be at fault because he killed Tybalt. By doing this, he was banned from Verona and that upset Juliet, now they had to go make a plan to get back together. If Romeo had not acted so irrationally, then he might not have killed Tybalt and then Juliet’s parents might not have had as big of a deal about the relationship and hating on Romeo.
And the reason why Juliet could be blamed is because she is very young and therefore should be listening to her parents. At the beginning of the play Juliet agrees to get to know Paris and then marry him .But then Romeo came along, and she then claims to have fell in love with him.
JULIET: I will not marry marry yet, and when I do I swear it shall be Romeo
This quote shows she doesn’t listen to her parents, and does whatever she wants. When Juliet’s father said that she will marry Paris she began to be rude and disrespectful towards him. Juliet was too young to make her own decisions; therefore she wasn’t ready for a serious relationship. Only if Juliet listened to her parents and married Paris then none of these problems would off been caused.
The feud between the two families is also a factor that contributed to the love of Romeo and Juliet being destined for destruction. The two families, Montague’s and Capulet’s, had many problems. There was so much hate between the two families that even the servants hated each other. This feud caused many problems for Romeo and Juliet.
Keeping the marriage a secret caused Romeo and Juliet to turn to other people for help. If Romeo’s and Juliet’s parents discovered their secret marriage, they would have made their children's lives miserable and Romeo and Juliet would not have been able to see each other. Both of these families were very stubborn and there was hardly anything that would have made them become friends.
Another reason why the Juliet’s Parents are at blame is because, The Capulet’s tried to force Juliet to marry Paris, the following quote shows this:
CAPULET: Soft! Take me with you, take me with you, wife. How! Will she none? Doth she not give us thanks? Is she not proud? Doth she not count her blest, Unworthy as she is, that we have wroug
so worthy a gentleman to be her bridegroom?
Juliet being forced to marry Paris made her very upset and desperate to get back with Romeo. This meant she was ready to do just anything to in order to get back with him.
On the other hand the play doesn’t seem to show that the Montague’s are interest in Romeo’s love live, Romeo and lord Montague had a bad son and father relationship.
If the two families never kept the feud going, then maybe Romeo and Juliet would have not kept their relationship a secret, and would have been together without any problems.
Fate is also another factor why Romeo’s and Juliet’s deaths were coursed. There is no way to control fate so it could be that the love of Romeo and Juliet was destined for death so that their parent's feud would be over. Fate above all destroyed Romeo and Juliet. Many parts in the play reveal that the love of Romeo and Juliet would end in death. The flowing quotes from the prologue proves this:
"A pair of star-crossed lovers take their life".
Also, in the prologue it states that the dreadful course of their love was destined for death.
"The fearful passage of their death marked love"
Both of these quotes show that the love of these two was destined to end tragically. The masquerade party was above all the most important aspect of fate. The fact that Romeo was wearing a mask and his face was hidden allowed Juliet to fall in love with him before she even saw who he was. If Juliet knew who Romeo was she would probably not have fallen in love with him. Fate could not have been changed, whatever was meant to be would happen and no one could have changed that.
In conclusion, there are many to blame for the deaths of Romeo and Juliet, the parents, Friar Lawrence, and Romeo and Juliet themselves, but each have their own reasons of why it could be blamed on them.
Many contributing factors can be blamed for the downfall of Romeo and Juliet; some of these include the immaturity of the lovers, the violent society in which they lived. But In my opinion the people who should be at blame the most for Romeo’s and Juliet‘s deaths should be put upon the adults in this tragedy, one the reasons is because of Friar Lawrence mistakes regarding Romeo and Juliet, and the other reason is because the parents should have ended the feud which created a violent society to live in and also because the Capulet’s should have been more understanding towards Juliet.
However the positive thing that came from the deaths of Romeo and Juliet is that it ended the feud between their families.
