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"There is no possibility of having sexual intercourse without meshing a part of your non-physical self. Sex is such a definite experience that a part of each of you remains forever a part of the other. How many times and how casually are you willing to invest a portion of your total self and accept such an investment from another person, with no assurance that the investment is for keeps?" #7
"True sexual freedom provides the option of saying no to these consequences [of sexual relations.] It says, 'We are human beings with procreative powers capable of mature love and rational choice. Our free will provides us with self-control and self-respect.'" #8'What do you mean by 'sex was meant to be given in marriage?' What is 'good and proper' in a given situation? Are there any rules, any morals regarding one's conduct in a relationship?
These phrases are based on a ideological framework. However, not necessarily religious, or it may co-exist as a rational and logical framework with moral principles. But doesn't there exist that which is generally known as 'natural law?' Or a moral code by which human beings follow? Of course a person of a particular belief system may refer to the author of this moral code as God, or the goddess, or whatever. So do you agree to the existence of at least a general 'moral' norm? One that describes what 'is meant to be?' Is racism 'meant to be' acceptable, or not acceptable? What prevents me from making my own 'relative' moral code, and say that I can be and act racist? By what basis are you telling me I am 'wrong.' Or why should I not lie to you, or steal from you? If morality is always relative to the individual, then I should be able to do these things without guilt, shame, or remorse. So there exist 'good and proper' conducts; there exist things 'meant to be.' And this directly applies to relationships. Should not trust, honesty, and fidelity all be fundamentals in a relationship? And when one of the aforementioned qualities is betrayed, cannot we accuse the perpetrator of wrongdoing? As for sex being 'meant to be given in marriage.' Marriage, by definition, is an institution. So there are inherent characteristics to this institution; what is allowed, what is desired, what is meant to be etc. that emerge from the nature of the lifetime covenant. Love, sharing, dedication, giving, monogamy, and fidelity are just a few examples. A line between 'right and wrong' can be drawn based on these innate aspects.
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'I personally believe that sex is inherently good. I also believe that love is no more noble than sex than sleeping is more noble than eating. And that sex is a legitimate human need.'
I personally believe sex is inherently good! But inherently good sex is debased when used in an improper context. Are you saying love is NOT more noble and essential in a relationship than sex????? The fascinating mystery of love. Where a man and woman come together in affection, giving and receiving. To become one; in mind, body and spirit. That queesy feeling you get when you are near to your loved one. That cloud nine bliss. You compare that to a simply physical action? Sex, minus any emotion or feeling (which is impossible; but commonly masked off as prostitution) is on a level with love?
Come on. I doubt ANYONE here would equate those two things. And sex (or what is typically thought of as sex between two persons) is a DESIRE. No one NEEDS sex.
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'I would be proud to say I was a virgin. Especially to women. Females are more reluctant to have sex with a guy who she knows has slept around than a guy to a girl who has ... All you male virgins out there need to speak up, because you're the smarter ones who decided to wait for the right person.'
Thanx for making a few great points. I don't know why people would be ashamed of something traditionally held in high esteem? But society has made some about-face turns regarding moral norms in the last few decades. It's interesting to hear you say that females are more reluctant than guys to have sex with a promiscuous person. I'm not sure what that statistic says but why should a man's virginity/non-virginity have greater/lesser value than that of a woman's?????
'I went out with this girl who had a hangup about virginity. It was really annoying when it should have been fun, knowing that there is no way she'd go any further. I mean don't they ever have lust or something?'
I'm glad you met a young woman who had strong beliefs and stood by her convictions. Do they lust? Of course, I would say we all do. That does not mean one wishes to continue in lustful thoughts. And the huge error comes when one acts upon wrongful desires. And I hold in high esteem a young lady (or man) who would 'refuse' sex based on beliefs, evidences and possible consequences.
'I believe you shouldn't sleep with someone if you can't respect them and their beliefs.'
Excellent point. If you are acting contrary to their beliefs, you don't respect them and you are taking advantage of them. Can we say 'rape', both emotionally and physically.
'My marriage partner will understand that I didn't wait for her/him.'
Think about the future. Think about the most amazing woman/man you will have ever met. Falling in deep love with her/him. Eventually committing your life to her/him. Isn't it worth waiting and making the commitment now to honor your future wife/husband with your whole heart, mind and body?
'What about a person who has lost their virginity. Can it be 'regained'?'
Physically no. Memories also remain. But I believe in what I call 'neo-virginity.' It's the mental change, the redirection of the heart of a person in vowing to live a life of abstinence until marriage. I don't believe in holding a person's past against them. But they are accountable for the present.*** lyrical interlude ***
She walks with class and she walks with style
She's only sixteen years old
Turns the head of every boy in school
Their hearts have been bought and sold
Popularity is hers for a price
Sometimes the price is hard to pay
Doin the things it takes to please the crowd
Knowing all the right things to say
Angela, such a pretty girl lost to the world
Angela, you're naive, young, tell me where does your heart belong Angela...
The social games have really gone too far
Mama just can't understand
High fashion girl has got a standard to meet
Ego has the upper hand
In her heart she's walked the way many times
Maybe she just don't understand
It's a matter of the heart, not the show
And freedom is her heart's demand
When you want to make a change, and feel it in your life
You know your heart will have to rearrange...
*** "Angela" by Legend ***
'What about those 'stories' a married couple tells each other about their previous sexual partners? Can't they be a little unsettling? Then you may meet the people and say 'You slept with him/her?!?!''
Another excellent point. Think of how degrading it would be to be in the above situation? How can sex be a 'gauge' pointing to the level of commitment? How can one say that a guy/girl cares about you more (due to your sexual relations) than the person they had sex with before? If they were having sex 'just for fun,' why not then would they be having sex with you 'just for fun?' Or how about a person thinking of the time they had sex before, and making comparisons? Oh it may not be intentional, but its an after the fact fact. Sex is a powerful and memorable emotional experience. What if they felt their previous partner was 'better' in bed??? Could that affect your current relationship????
*** qUoTeS ***
"Due to the instant sex of the sexual revolution, people perform rather than make love. Many women can't achieve a sense of intimacy, and their anxiety about how well they perform blocks their chances for honest arousal. Without genuine involvement, they haven't much chance for courtship, romance or love. They're left feeling cheated and burned out."
(Debora Phillips, author of 'Sexual Confidence' and director of the Princeton Center for Behavior Therapy.) #9
'One question that has perplexed me is what if both partners who wait until they are married to have sex not know what to 'do?' And what if they are 'sexually incompatible?''
Not know what to do??? Seems pretty evident that the methods involved in a man and women becoming physically intimate is quite innate to the human species. :)
Regarding the 'sexually incompatible' myth. It does not exist for a couple who has the proper priorities in a relationship. If you are in love with a person should a presumed sexual inconvenience ruin that love??? Here's the example I like to give. Suppose after two years of marriage, and wonderful sex, your loved one (a man) loses his genitals in a freak accident. So are you saying that would be grounds to ditch the guy??? That situation sounds pretty sexually incompatible to me. But there are no possible arguments that a fulfilling and wonderful relationship could not and should not continue. Note that I'm not saying every couple will have a 'perfect' sex life in marriage. But with openness, communication, and sharing the couple can enjoy a totally gratifying and enjoyable sexual relationship. :)
'Aren't some people more 'sexually compatible' with others?'
How do we 'gauge' compatibility? Isn't there always going to be someone who is a little 'prettier', a little 'sexier', a little better kisser according to some opinions? Such a pursuit theoretically can never end. Your current sexual partner is always 2nd, or 5th, 25th, or nth best. Such an outlook could be taken to physical appearance. A woman walks by who is prettier, so you dump your current partner because this new female's 'looks' are more compatible with your desires. This is an extreme example of what such viewpoints could imply. The incompatibility problem doesn't even exist when one has only one sexual partner, as comparisons cannot be made. I definitely think that 'attraction' and 'compatibility' are concerns, but they should be relegated to a proper priority. The concept of 'better sexual compatibility' undermines what true love and lasting relationships are all about.
*** qUoTeS ***
"No one knows what effect sex, precociously experienced, will have on the immature mind. Sex experience before confidentiality, empathy, and trust have been established can hinder and may destroy the possibility of a solid, permanent relationship."
(Dr. Mary Calderone) #10
'OK, so marriage is the perfect state for sexual expression. But what if my future wife/husband doesn't enjoy sex?'
Can you name any significant percentage of persons (excluding problematic circumstances) who do not enjoy sexual fulfillment? I think most everyone looks forward to this expression of love. A good relationship exhibits growth. Exploring the different facets of each other's personality and character. Building trust. Gaining intimacy. Sexual fulfillment is just a part of a couple's sharing. A husband and wife have attained the degree of intimacy and commitment where they then can now express their love sexually. In openness. In assurance. In confidence. In security. Without fear. Without shame. What better way to discover and explore this wonderful territory than starting off TOGETHER! Dedicated fully to helping, pleasing, and serving each other in the exclusive lifetime commitment of marriage.
'I firmly believe in "try before you buy".'
Ok. Try before you buy. Taking this position then you are saying that a main priority in your decision to accept a woman in a relationship is sexual. So if she doesn't live up to your expectations then you dump her? Would any females reading this go for the above? That a male would judge you and accept or reject you based on your sexual prowess, or how you rate against the sexual ability of other women? EXTREMELY shallow.
What about comparison? How do you judge a woman as to her sexual capability? If this is the only woman you ever had sex with, and the experience was quite fulfilling, then how could you honestly judge that she is not 'good enough.' You can't because there is no one else to compare with. Unless you have had previous sexual partners. Then you can 'rate' her performance in bed...'..I give this one a 6.7...'...*uggghhhhh*...
Also 'try before you buy' -- remember STDs, pregnancy, consequences etc.
*** qUoTeS ***
"Studies show that a relationship based on physical attraction may hold itself together for three to five years. During that length of time two people are fooled into thinking, "Well, we've been going together for so long, surely we can make it for a lifetime. This must be love." On the other side of marriage, they wake up to see they had little in common and no basis for a quality relationship." #7
*** lyrical interlude ***
Babe, you whisper in my ear
Things I shouldn't hear
Oh girl, this time you've gone too far
It's like a falling star
You're givin' yourself away
Too much a price to pay
Girl, temptation's all around
Our love has fallen down
Oh, baby, the passions of design
Our love is on the line
Affections have been misplaced
The scars we cannot erase
Lies in the dark
Words of love but they're tearing us apart
Lies in the dark
Baby, it's true
*** "Lies in the Dark" by Bloodgood ***
'What about all the cases regarding STDs (sexually transmitted diseases), HIV, AIDS etc? How can I be safe, for sure?'
- The federal Centers for Disease Control estimate that there are now 1 million HIV cases nationwide. #11
- The rate of heterosexual HIV transmission has increased 44% since Sept 1989. #12
- Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) infect 3 million teenagers annually. #13
- 63% of all STD cases occur among persons less than 25 years of age. #13
- 1 million new cases of pelvic inflammatory disease occur annually. #11
- 1.3 million new cases of gonorrhea occur annually. #13
- Syphilis is at a 40 year high, with 134,000 new infections per year. #13
- 500,000 new cases of herpes occur annually. #13
- It is estimated that 16.4% of the US population ages 15-74 is infected with herpes, totaling more than 25 million Americans - among certain groups, the infection rate is as high as 60%. #14
- 4 million cases of chlamydia occur annually; #13 10-30% of 15-19 year olds are infected. #15
- There are now 24 million cases of human papilloma virus (HPV), with a higher prevalence among teens. #16
There's only one safe way to remain healthy in the midst of a sexual revolution. It is to abstain from intercourse until marriage, and then wed and be faithful to an uninfected partner. It is a concept that was widely endorsed in society until the 1960s (and look what's happened since then..........)
'What are the statistics as to real-life (typical) pregnancy rates for those couples who use a condom in an attempt to prevent pregnancy? Other cases?'
Use of condoms has typically failed at least 15.7% of the time annually in preventing pregnancy. #17 They fail 36.3% of the time annually in preventing pregnancy among young, unmarried minority women. #17 In a study of homosexual men, the British Medical Journal reported the failure rate due to slippage and breakage to be 26%. #18 Remember a woman can conceive only a few days per month. Think of how much more risk is involved with a disease that can be transmitted 365 days a year.'What do the experts think about HIV and condoms?'
At the National Conference on HIV in 1991 some 800 sexologists were asked to raise their hand if they would trust a condom to protect them during intercourse with a known HIV-infected person. Not one of them did. #19
'So why are government institutions, private agencies and schools promoting condoms and other contraceptive use in preventing pregnancy and disease?'
Darn good question!!! We've already shown the stats on disease and pregnancy. Since 1970 the federal government has spent nearly $3 billion to promote contraception and 'safe sex.' This year alone, $450 million of your tax dollars will go down that drain. #20 (Compared to less than $8 million for abstinence programs.) After 22 years and nearly $3 billion, some 58% of teenage girls under 18 still did not use contraception during their first intercourse. #21 Furthermore, teenagers tend to keep having unprotected intercourse for a full year, on average, before starting any kind of contraception. #22
*** qUoTeS ***
"Condom distribution sanctions, even encourages, sexual activity, which in teen years tends to be promiscuous and relegates to secondary status the most important lesson to be taught: abstinence. An analysis of the entire condom distribution logic also provides a glimpse into just what is wrong with public education today."
"Advocates of condom distribution say that kids are going to have sex, that try as we might we can't stop them. Therefore they need protection. Hence, condoms. Well, hold on a minute. Just whose notion is it that 'kids are going to do it anyway, you can't stop them?' Why limit the application of that brilliant logic to sexual activity? Let's just admit that kids are going to do drugs and distribute safe, untainted drugs every morning in homeroom. Kids are going to smoke, too, we can't stop them, so let's provide packs of low-tar cigarettes to the students for their after-sex smoke. Kids are going to get guns and shoot them, you can't stop them, so let's make sure that teachers have bulletproof vests. I mean, come on! If we are really concerned about safe sex, why stop at condoms? Let's convert study halls to Safe Sex Centers where students can go to actually have sex on nice double beds with clean sheets under the watchful and approving eye of the school nurse, who will be on hand to demonstrate, along with the principal, just how to use a condom. Or even better: If kids are going to have sex, let's put disease-free hookers in these Safe Sex Centers. Hey, if safe sex is the objective, why compromise our
standards?"
"Well, here's what's wrong. There have always been consequences to having sex. Always. Now, however, some of these consequences are severe: debilitating venereal diseases and AIDS. You can now die from having sex. It is that simple. If you look, the vast majority of adults in America have made adjustments in their sexual behavior in order to protect themselves from some of the dire consequences floating around out there. For the most part, the sexual revolution of the sixties is over, a miserable failure. Free love and rampant one-night stands are tougher to come by because people are aware of the risks. In short, we have modified our behavior. Now, would someone tell me what is so difficult about sharing this knowledge and experience with kids? The same stakes are involved. Isn't that our responsibility, for crying out loud, to teach them what's best for them? If we adults aren't responding to these new dangers by having condom-protected sex anytime, anywhere, why should such folly be taught to our kids?"
"Doesn't it make sense to be honest with kids and tell them the best thing they can do to avoid AIDS or any of the other undesirable consequences is to abstain from sexual intercourse? It is the best way - in fact, is it the only surefire way - to guard against sexual transmission of AIDS, pregnancy, and venereal diseases. What's so terrible about saying so?"
('The Epitome of Morality and Virtue' a.k.a. Rush Limbaugh) #23
'So far I haven't encountered any problems with STD's, pregnancy, etc.'
Well statistics point to the fact that things/accidents happen. But you know full well that EVERY TIME you have sex there is risk/possible consequences involved. And is a few hours of pleasure worth a lifetime of pain, or even death??????
'What if I take careful precautions before I have sex, can't I avoid her becoming pregnant?'
Even IF (and that's a HUGE if; real-life statistics show otherwise) all contraceptives worked 99% of the time, would you take that chance of getting your partner pregnant, becoming a father, and be willing to accept all the emotional, physical, financial, social and mental responsibilities with it?
Real people. Real experiences. Real life.
I would gladly include any personal testimonies, or related opinions or experiences from anyone wishing to contribute. (as space permits.) Again a great thanks to all those who have shared! :)
"Not the way I see it...my own opinion, mind you, but whatever woman eventually shares my sex life is going to know that it means more than just making each other feel good..."
"...the term "making love" should actually be that...an extension of the total commitment that two people have for each other...that the physical act is an extra in a relationship...not that the relationship exists because of it."
"...sex is a huge way to let your mate know that she (or he) is the most special person in the world to you...it involves vulnerability that cannot be found in any other way..."
"I guess for me that's just my opinion on women. My morals are just not to have sex until I'm married-- I just want to save it and have it be something all the more wonderful and special with my future wife. But in my experiences with dating that I've had, it's made it much easier and better starting off as wonderful friends and then starting a relationship-- this way once you break up (if) then you can still relate to each other and go back to the time when the relationship wasn't so physical and be friends again..."
"Physical attraction, per se, is not something I see as either right or wrong. When it leads to mutually desired sex between partners in Matrimony, it's used appropriately. When it leads to any other use of sex, it isn't. As I understand things. Physical desire is like any other appetite. Morally neutral, it can lead to either appropriate fulfillment, or not."
"...about the virginity thing...it is something special, and one should be careful when giving it to someone, and I agree, it should be left for marriage..."
"I have to agree with you about the losing thing, I hope to some day, "give" my virginity to my husband...religion is not the only reason to abstain from sex...but it is not a bad reason, to those who feel that way...I chose to weigh the options, and decided to stay a virgin, it is important to me..."
"Sex is much more than just a physical act. It takes into account our emotional, mental, and spiritual states as well as our physical state. If any one of those states are upset, then the sex act may not be what we would like."
"...Religion is not the only reason to abstain until marriage. I'm religious, Catholic as a matter of fact, but I didn't make the decision to abstain until marriage because the Church told me to. I made the decision because I know that I don't want to have to deal with the prospect of pregnancy, STD's, and the other complications that go along with having a sexual relationship, however fulfilling it may be. I want to know that the person I am involved with is there because of who I am, not what I do in bed. I have seen too many relationships dissolve because the only communication between the two people involved was sexual. I want to have something different. So before you go deciding that those who remain virgins are doing so because God told them to, please give some credit to the fact we are logical human beings and made some choices for our own well-being..."
"...one point that I always make is that with abstinence before marriage, they won't constantly have to worry about whether the birth control will work or if a pregnancy will result. Abstinence takes away this constant worry. I ALWAYS worried about getting pregnant, and every other girl I know is like that too. And the guys I know are concerned about it too. With abstinence, there is the peace of mind for a female, that they don't have to worry about pregnancy/disease and all the things that go along with those end results; like...diapers, childcare, pre-natal care, who the father might be, whether he will want to take responsibility, etc... and that right there is enough reason for me to remain abstinent until marriage. :) Those are not fun things to go through. And in today's society, when someone has sex, they are not sleeping just with their partner, but everyone else that person has slept with too..."
"And it is NOT just up to the individual, for one reason simply because so many people think it isn't! I don't care much what kind of sex life someone has, but I do care about how someone affects someone else's sex life! Like I don't want any person to ever have sex with a potential girlfriend of mine."
"...you only have one first time, if you aren't ready, one or both of you may end up regretting it afterwards. Believe me, there is NOTHING wrong with waiting..."
"...There are so many factors regarding sex that you only find out later, and once you've done it, you can never NOT have done it. I lost my virginity when I was 17, and sex became something it never should...College relationships are so volatile. There is so much ELSE going on, and sex, while it can be bonding and meaningful, can tend to sexualize your relationship. By this I mean that you will always have that nagging anxiety regarding pregnancy, and believe me, waiting for 3 weeks or a month for a late period strains the best of relationships. You then have to approach the safety factor... pregnancy is a BIG deal. But the most important is afterwards. Chances are, no matter how you feel now, you won't get married. Once you have sex, it's easier to have it again, and in each relationship, it's earlier and earlier. How will you feel if you break up, and terrible things are said? She'll probably say "I can't believe I slept with him!? It didn't mean anything he's saying..." Regardless if you have moral convictions regarding abstinence, there are a LOT of things to consider. Sex is overrated. My boyfriend and I have both had sex in other relationships, which all ended badly, and we've been going out for almost 8 months, and we still haven't had sex. If we do get married, there will be that experience for us to share. There are other ways to be close in a relationship..."
"...who wants to get out of bed in the morning knowing that the person sleeping next to them just wanted them for sex, and not who or what they are, but just for physical recreation???? By seeing sex for just pleasure purposes, they are minimizing the wonders of love because sex is an act of love. And when/if they do get married, how do they think their spouse will feel knowing they think sex is purely physical, and not emotional???"
"One thing I always mention about this is about that one Olympic runner dude who now has AIDS due to a transfusion he had during a surgery he had. After he found out he had AIDS, he and his wife cut off their sexual relations. They have both said that their relationship has become stronger since then and that they don't miss that aspect as much as they thought they would because their commitment to each other has deepened and their love have grown even stronger through their hardships."
'What right does a religious organization have to cheat people out of the right to explore, know, and enjoy their own bodies?'
I don't know exactly what organization you are referring to. However your claim that people are 'cheated' out of a right is not necessarily true. A belief system which would force people to abide by a rule, where the person had no free will or option to get out of that belief system or circumstance, would be wrong. Most belief systems have a set of guidelines, which are intended for the benefit of the individual and community. Those guidelines are voluntary to follow. However when one person's actions affect another, or lawmaker(s) feel that the law is beneficial to both individual and community, then the establishment of enforceable law is recommended. ¤'Also.... any group that teaches that there is something wrong with the fact that sexuality is a vital and significant part of our natures is a group that does a terrible disservice to humanity...Christianity essentially attempts to ignore sexuality as much as possible and what it doesn't ignore it tries to regulate into oblivion.'
Apparently you have a misunderstanding of the sexual view of man/woman that Christianity presents. Christianity and Biblical principles state that sexuality IS a significant part of our natures. Christianity doesn't ignore sexuality at all. Actually as you know the belief system comments on sexuality quite often. :) And marriage is absolutely discussed, honored, and esteemed in the Bible.
'...made them male and female, and said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they two shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.' Matthew 19:4-6
'Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Let her be as the loving hind and the pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.' Proverbs 5:18-19
'Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing..' Proverbs 18:22
'So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.' Ephesians 5:28
'Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.' 1 Corinthians 7:3
'Marriage is honorable in all; and the bed undefiled...' Hebrews 13:4
'Christianity denies that sexuality is an essential part of who and what we are. It stands in stark contrast to reality. It is very damaging.'
How can you say Christianity 'denies that sexuality is an essential part of who and what we are?' By the numerous recommendations on sexual conduct alone contained in the Bible it is very clear that sexuality is definitely a major part of every human being, a very integral feature of the male/female relationship, and a gift to be used and given freely and wonderfully in the proper context.
*** lyrical interlude ***
Long ago when the world was young and nobody understood
The way a man and a woman could be in love the way they should
He was sad he knew that something was missing but soon Adam would see
A woman as he woke up from his sleep
She was soft with the purest touch and her eyes said that she cared
A friend to him and a friend to her and all the world to share
And when they came together man and wife it was the perfect thing to do
And then they said those words together, 'I love you.'
That's the way that love began and that's the way that love was meant to be
In the sadness or the laughter Into the darkness or the day
The two of them became as one and love would guide the way
Never leaving never thinking twice about a life for them apart
They were joined together by the love inside their hearts
*** "Ballad of Adam and Eve" by Mad at the World ***
'Don't religious people choose not to engage in pre-marital sex simply because 'God told them so?'
Well I know quite a few 'religious people' who choose not to engage in premarital sex for other reasons than just 'because God said so.' Take a look back to all the possible motivations presented in the previous sections of this 'FAQ'. And moral laws have their basis in the practical. God knows EXACTLY those things which are necessary for a man and woman to fully enjoy a loving, intimate, committed, life-long relationship. He has graciously given us guidelines for our benefit, happiness, and protection. To make an analogy, a parent will tell his/her child not to touch the hot stove. Why doesn't the child touch it? Because of the parent's warning. But when he is old enough he will understand that the stove is hot and would hurt his hand. The practical behind the law. :)
*** lyrical interlude *** Your boyfriend told you it would be alright And all your friends are doin it in the dark of the night They say you're gonna like the way it makes you feel But how you gonna deal with the guilt and pain that's so real? You see no end in sight. C'mon and make it right... Somebody sold you a lie. Will you listen to this or will you be surprised? And all your friends said it would be alright As long as you believe in God you can do what you want on a Friday night So you do what they call fun But tell me do you feel empty when the morning comes
Somebody sold you a lie. Will you listen to this or will you be surprised? You can't even believe the people that you idolize 'Cause somebody sold you a lie In the heat of it all we compromise our faith As the tension builds we break...¤'Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable - if anything is excellent or praiseworthy - think about such things...' Philippians 4:8