Attraction is the force that drives bodies or people together, in social psychology the definition of interpersonal attraction is an attitude of liking or disliking.

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Anna Moore                 Psychology coursework

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Attraction is the force that drives bodies or people together, in social psychology the definition of  interpersonal attraction is an attitude of liking or disliking (negative attraction) (Bersheid, 1976) Many factors; proximity, similarity, reciprocity and physical appearance contribute to interpersonal attraction.

Proximity; If we come into contact with someone either socially or at work frequently we are more likely to form an attraction with them rather than someone who we rarely see. Adults reported an increased liking for a photo of a stranger simply as a result of being exposed to a photo many times (Moreland and Zajonc, 1982)

Reciprocity; The tendency to return feelings and attitudes that are expressed about us. We tend to like those who like us and reject those who reject us. When we are admired and complimented we are inclined to return those feelings and behaviours. Walster (1965) did a study about reciprocity, women in a waiting room were approached by a good looking male (confederate) who asked them for a date. They then entered the experiment room where they were made to feel either positive about themselves or negative about themselves. He found that the women who had been led to feel negatively about themselves felt considerably more attracted to their male admirer than those who had been led to feel positively about themselves. This is because the females who were feeling negatively about themselves were put in the temporary position of needing positive approval, they therefore gave more positive approval back to the person providing it.

John Thibaut and Harold Kelley’s social exchange theory is based on the belief that humans are selfish and will only do something if they stand to gain from it, i.e. people won’t stay in a relationship if they are not receiving as much back as they are putting in. Its all about a balance people weigh up in their heads the advantages and the drawbacks of the relationship and if the negative out weighs the positive then its not worth being in the relationship.

Similarity: Do opposites attract or do we like people who are similar to ourselves? Hundreds of statistical studies dating back to 1870 show that husbands and wives are not only significantly similar to each other in the following sociological features; age, religion, education and socio-economic groups but also physical and psychological characteristics such as height, eye colour and intelligence(Rubin 1973) this links with Murstein and his similarity of attractiveness in newly wed couples.

Matching hypothesis: People tend to choose persons similar to themselves in attractiveness and attitudes in formation of interpersonal relationships (Murstein)

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Saying that opposites attract may only apply to certain personality traits such as dominance and submissiveness, The traditional sex-roles within a marriage are founded on opposites attracting and would not work based on similarity, however, even this difference between the two partners relies on a similarity favouring power roles within a marriage.

Despite this, research doesn’t continuously say that gender roles in a couple are of importance in long term relationships. Research tends to suggest that similarity is the basis to which determines “who fancy’s who”

And finally, physical attractiveness; although there is something slightly undemocratic about ...

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