Christians believe sex is a beautiful gift from God, like marriage is the most beautiful expression of deep union between two people and sex is only special as it is only with the intent to create and its wrong to use a person as a thing. A Biblical reference states that marriage is life giving, it ‘refers to sexual union with all its potential for creating new life’.
How would the vows affect the life of a newly married couple:
A new marries couple would have to understand that the marriage they are undertaking is for life if they are Christian and the vows are the rules that they have committed to.
The vows imply no matter what hardships come or what fortune you get you have to stay together. It is your responsibility to care for you partner and your love towards your husband or wife has to equal or become greater than that for your self. You cannot take advantage of them or hold them back, for example if they really want children. The marriage becomes a life long commitment as it states in the Bible, when two people get married they become one flesh, as stated in Genesis ‘and death do us part’ which rules out divorce completely because the only time the marriage will end is when one of the partners die and that is the only grounds in which Roman Catholic will remarry.
The marriage has also aloud the couple to have children now they are in wedlock, but they can only have sex with the intent to reproduce, Genesis 2:23-24, Adam said ‘this is now bones of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and there shall be one flesh.’
A Christian should never divorce, do you agree?
Christians believe, as stated in Mark 10:2-12, this is the only reason why someone could divorce, in this text Moses permitted a man to divorce his wife by noticed dismissal, however Jesus said when two people marry they become one therefore they are no longer two individuals and what god has joined, man must not separate. Also Jesus said that whosoever shall put away his wife, and marries another, is committing adultery against her.
I believe marriages can sometimes breakdown unavoidably. Despite the vows appointing a life long commitment and the two people becoming one flesh, financial disposition, children or adultery, I believe are some valid grounds for divorce. However, I also think people are not taking marriage, as seriously as they should and more consideration should go into the vows and the life long marriage they are committing to, secular society or not. The increasing divorce rate is due to this secularisation with less importance attached to marriage but I still believe that marriage, even to an unreligious couple in a society where divorce is becoming ever more socially acceptable should be taken seriously and until death parts them.
The Roman Catholic Church can annul a marriage. An annulment is a declaration that the marriage bond never happened. It is possible through reasons such as, lack of consent, an inability to carry out the duties of marriage or through lack of intension like disapproval of the ides to have children. Roman Catholics believe children make the relationship complete. A dissolution is the breaking of a bond that did happen, this would occur with the grounds of which one may not have fully understood what marriage fully entails, for example one may not be aware that marriage was a life long commitment, or there is a inability to carry out the duties of marriage, for example mental illness.
Baptist church says ‘it is because we have such a high view of marriage that adultery and divorce are regarded so seriously by our churches. Nevertheless most Baptist recognise that when a marriage has broken down it may do more harm than good to those involved and those around them. In such circumstances after all attempts of counselling have failed Baptists would generally allow the possibility of divorce.
