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The Detriment of Divorce

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Amy Haizlip October 3, 2001 Cause and Effect English 1002 The Detriment of Divorce The reasons for divorce are many. Some of these reasons are very obvious, while other reasons are not so clear. No matter what the reasons, the effects are rarely good for anyone involved. Not only are there tremendous emotional stresses on the adults, but there are usually financial issues as well. In addition, the smallest, but in reality the biggest, victims of the tragedy of divorce are the children. Divorce is often an avenue taken in response to abuse, infidelity, loss of a child, difference of priorities, lack of communication, or unwillingness to compromise. In the case of abuse, there is no question that the abused spouse or child should leave or be taken away from the abuser. Some people would say the same for infidelity. The spouse who has committed the transgression should be removed from the equation. The loss of a child will often pull a couple apart. It is very difficult for the parents not to blame each other for the loss, no matter the true circumstances. Losing a child is a time when Mom and Dad should be leaning on one another for love and support in order to progress in life. ...read more.

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Some will even commit murder, thinking, "If I can't have him/her, no one will." This, of course, would be the worst possible outcome. The financial aspects of divorce are usually negative. People with a lot of money and property will often execute lengthy court battles in an effort to come out with their share. For the average couple with average incomes and expenses, the battles can still be lengthy and expensive and their financial situation is usually worse after the divorce. Lower income families don't usually have a lot to fight over financially, except who will pay the bills. Sometimes the parties in a divorce will invent disputes in order to drag out the proceedings. A couple going through a divorce a few years ago experienced this because the husband managed to drag the divorce proceedings out for an extra six months by making frivolous demands. Each time he would make a demand, she would concede and he would find another demand. The demands were silly; he wanted the coffee table, the coffee maker, etc. Even though they owned no property and had no assets to divide, the entire process took 13 months. So, divorce can be lengthy and quite costly in any arena, whether it be the wealthiest one percent, or those who live below poverty level. ...read more.

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The custody battle is probably the most detrimental aspect of the divorce for young children. This is when their loyalties are torn and their love is often used to manipulate them. They may understand that Mommy hurt Daddy, but she didn't hurt the children and the children want to be with both parents. No one should ever put their children in the middle of adult problems. It is sad enough that the children lose most of shat is stable and happy in their lives, they don't need to be pawns for parents to use against one another. Everyone suffers during and after a divorce. Even though divorce may be the only solution, this does not lessen the negative impact that is felt by the adults emotionally and financially and the emotional devastation that children suffer in its wake. There are a few relatively simple things that can be done to help lower the divorce rate. One good idea is to spend more premarital time getting to know one another's goals, dreams, and priorities. Premarital counseling would be of great help as well. If divorce were not so accessible, meaning that there doesn't have to be a real reason, it would not be so easy to turn to as a solution. People would think twice about taking the wedding vows if the legal bond that they represent was enforced more stringently. ?? ?? ?? ?? Haizlip-- ...read more.

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