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Our Choice

        We usually have to face many expectations from others like parents, teachers, and bosses. A few years ago, there was a news story about a student committed suicide at graduation in an university. According to the report, the student did not graduate in the year he should have. His parents flew from Asia to see his graduation. He can not fulfill his parents’ expectation, so he jumped off the building above the graduation ceremony. As we see from this case, expectations can be powerful; and even deadly. When we do not know how to manage expectations, we start to be influence by other’s expectation on us, instead of believing in ourselves.

        Expectations are desires that others want us to accomplish in future. Sometimes, the expectations of others are different from the choice we really want to make. Different expectations often lead to conflicts, misunderstanding, stress, and other pressures. In the year of my fifth grade, I wanted to learn to play violin deeply. I tried to ask my parents to buy me a violin. I can still remember the scene when I asked my mother. At first, her face was shocked, and then she laughed at me. My heart was like pealed with a thunder. I was very serious that I wanted to learn violin. I also tried to ask my father. He firmly responded, “In this period all you have to do is focus on homework and stop thinking about violin.” The situation is like a shooting champion police do not permit to carry a gun for patrol. The interest, ability and hope is been block and dispel. After hearing my parents’ responses, I was not angry, but confused and depressed about why my parent would block the interest that their child wants. Since then, I rarely tell my parent about my thoughts and desires. Lack of communications and trust occurred between me and my parents, because I was no longer felt they are the one who understand me. They just wanted their son to be the robot that under their control. I started to hate my parents at that time.

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        Sandra Cisneros also faced serious problems because of her parents’ expectation of her. According to Cisneros, “After four years in college and two more in graduate school, and still no husband, my father shake his head even now and say I wasted all that education”(142). Cisneros’ father had a totally different expectation for Cisneros’ education. Her father said Cisneros was “wasted” all the years that been to school. Her father was frustrated of Cisneros still do not have husband to fulfill what he expect. In her father’s mind, Cisneros’ success in English can’t even compare with getting a husband. Her ...

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