Independence and stress
Independence is what they need at the end of it all they feel if they have lovers they are more independent in such away their own married wives will be aware of the lovers they have so they is no need of questioning them and make them feel like little boys but as in nature women are emotional and concerned they ask to make sure that they care for them and they use women as a target when they are stressed by using them for sex so as too feel comfortable
Male domination
Since Uganda is living under male domination where by men rule in everything and aspects of life they take the advantage of doing whatever they want while as women stand little chances of having a say in relationship when we look at the northern part of Uganda girls are not allowed to enjoy their full rights including sexual intercourse before they are circumcised its only after the practice of circumcision girls are regarded as ripe and eligible for marriage and able to enjoy other privileges while as male could do anything according to their own choices
Religion based
This as been considered as a big issue more so in Moslems a man could have more than two or three lovers so its according to a woman to take it or leave it but as also when we look the ratio of women to men is at a very high percentage so this as contributed to women to take the option of sharing one man if not so women would remain lonely for life and would not gain any respect not in anytime of they life’s.
Family demand where by a man does not have his own conclusion he may depend on his family for the decision because in marriage there is always ups and down, so for whatever problem he may get he is likely to ask his family to make a decision. They may give him a solution of looking for partners.
Context
Marriage in Uganda is not always a romantic experience, a women can find her self sixth wife to an abusive husband without even consenting to the marriage. Meanwhile sexual demands exposed women to unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases including HIV. A mix of culture, tradition and lack of education confines most Ugandan women to the home barring them from paid employment should the marriage break down even after a husband’s death many wives find themselves inherited by their brothers in law marriage is minefield
From about 1860 married Uganda men had same characters as those in present time taking an option of for them to have lovers is accqtable which is still annual event since the early years whether they could afford looking after or not they still wanted to have lovers which has called women to be called prostitutes
This social observations project will attempt to look how Uganda married men behaved and are still behaving towards relationship, which has affected African women both sides for those who are married or single
Since the early years Uganda men feel more prestige for them to have lovers though sometimes its taken as are culture issue but to some extent its too relevant in that it ends up destroying women’s life later on as for Uganda married women to have lovers is looked as if is not blessed or a prostitute not putting it in consideration its part of ones nature so as for men to have lovers as lead to them to have children in different women which causes problems in the children having depressions seeing their mothers being treated in different manners by their fathers moving to different women
The second wave of Uganda married men to have lovers is just influence and pressure from fellow men that pushes them to do it so that they would feel they are really men more especially when they are in groups talking about the kind of women they could date for a change they would try to date rich ones so as to see the difference or to gain some wealth out of them as long as they have done it for the change they will continue with the same behaviour so they cant stick to one partner
Methodology
In this project I have a variety of secondary sources such as books newspapers and magazines articles and television programmes. Though not all of it has been a hypothesis interview or case studies would have been difficult methods to use because people usually hold strong views about the subject matter and it would have meant doing too many
Social research is a very difficult exercise to conduct because it’s very difficult exercise to conduct because it’s very difficult to remain objective and impartial not bringing ones own own value judgements and ideologies into it to research is to seek answers that involve understanding and explanation where as the credibility of its out come will rest heavily on the conduct of the investigation
Evaluation
Its seems so strange that Ugandan married men still can’t stay without having partners its now finally looked as a normal matter that they should do what makes them feel happy so this has forced the society of Uganda to accept it.
Men have reached a dimention in that they even have more than one partner, they have taken the rule within own hands. They don’t want to be told anything concerning the outside relationship otherwise they will find another partner.
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