The Sons veto and survival are set in very different times. How far are each women’s actions governed by social expectations of women in each period?

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The Sons veto and survival are set in very different times. How far are each women’s actions governed by social expectations of women in each period?

Thomas Hardy’s ‘The Sons Veto’ was written and set in 1891 when the expectations of women, were very different to how they are today. Women were expected to be domestic, to cook and clean so therefore to have no job or income of their own. They were to be completely reliant on their husband’s money. Their role in life was to produce a male heir. Women had no vote and no power over anything important. They were to dress formally with hardly any skin showing. They rarely had a formal education, men always got the priority.

When ‘Survival’ was written in the 1950’s conditions for women had not changed drastically. Society recognised two types of women. The meek, mild domestic homely type and the tarty, blond popular kind.  Women were still thought to be weak and unable to last long under tough conditions. They were not supposed to be self confident, and men still took a leading role.

The main difference between ‘The Son’s Veto’ and ‘Survival’ is that Sophy lived up to her expectations and didn’t stand up for herself. She did as she was told and was very docile and so never made a fuss. Alice on the other hand was very different but at first came over as the same. Her mother described her as a mouse and this gives us the impression of her being quiet and obedient.

“ Not like my little mouse at all”

This is a major contrast because at the end of the story she proves herself to be strong and brave, more like a lion.

This shows a change in Alice. She says, “Perhaps you don’t know me quite as well as you imagine you do mother”

This shows she clearly isn’t as timid as we may have thought. If she was like Sophy, she would have gone along with what her mother thought was right for a woman of her age and not argued about it. Because she doesn’t do this, it makes her mother very jealous of her son in law, who is in her opinion taking her daughter away from her.

“She kept her eyes averted, boring jealousy into the back of her son in laws head.”

“He’s taken you right away from me”

Alice has quite a lot of self-confidence. She continues to stand up to her mother.

“That’s not true mother…I’m a woman with a life of my own to live.”

Sophy never stands up for herself. She demonstrates this right at the beginning when her son Randolph corrects her grammar. “His mother hastily adopted the correction and did not resent his making it, or retaliate.”

She had good reason to retaliate because her son had crumbs round his mouth from a cake he had tried to conceal in his pocket.

“She might well have done, by bidding him to wipe that crumby mouth of his, whose condition had been caused by surreptitious attempts to eat a piece of cake without taking it out the pocket wherein it lay concealed.”

If she cannot even stand up and take control of her own son then what hope does she have? Even though she out ranks her son in age she still doesn’t feel like she can have any kind of rule over him.

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Sophy was not even sure she loved the vicar when she said she would marry him. It was more out of respect.

“Sophy did not exactly love him, but she had a respect for him which almost amounted to veneration”

I was like she couldn’t dare to say no to such a socially high man. She couldn’t let such an opportunity pass by.

“ She hardly dared refuse a parsonage so reverend.”

When Sophy agrees to marry the vicar, her husband is so ashamed of her that he moves to London so he can get way from people who ...

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