Level of attractiveness as a determinant of marriage

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PSYCHOLOGY COURSEWORK                SHEETAL GANDHI

Attractive people are imagined to possess all kinds of other qualities. Knowing that someone has these qualities before we meet them, we assume that they must be attractive too. Therefore, attraction forms a major aspect of our social lives: not just in terms of the intimate relationships, which we form with other individuals, but also in our friendships and working companionships.

There are several different factors involved in the ways that we come to like or dislike others. Some of the main ones are familiarity, similarity of attitudes, physical attraction and reciprocal liking.

Physical attractiveness is not only a major determinant of sexual attraction but also of friendship. There is a considerable body of research suggesting that we view more positively and behave more favourably towards people whom we consider to be more attractive.

In terms of the effect of attractiveness on more intimate attraction, Walster et al. (1966) suggested the matching hypothesis. This proposed that people tend to form their longer-term relationships with those who are about equal in physical attractiveness to themselves.

According to the social exchange theory, people are more likely to become romantically involved if they are fairly closely matched in their ability to reward one another. Ideally, we would all like to have the 'perfect partner' because, the theory says, we are all selfish. However, since this is impossible we try to find a compromise solution. The best general bargain that can be struck is a value-match (a subjective belief that our partner is the most rewarding we could realistically hope to find).

According to Price and Vandenberg (1979), 'the matching phenomenon (of physical attraction between marriage partners) is stable within and across generations'. The findings from the various matching hypothesis studies imply that the kind of partner that we would be satisfied with is one we feel will not reject us, rather than one we positively desire. Brown (1986), however, maintains that the matching phenomenon results from a well-learned sense of what is 'fitting', rather than a fear of being rebuffed. For Brown, then, we learn to adjust our expectations of rewards in line with what we believe we have to offer others.

Walster et al. (1966) set up a 'computer dance' for students, in which they were allocated partners at random. As each student arrived to buy their ticket for the dance, independent judges rated their physical attractiveness. Halfway through the dance, the students were handed questionnaires and asked to evaluate their partners. They were approached again six months later, to see if they had been out with their partners at all since the dance.

Before the dance, each of the students research participants had completed questionnaires on aptitude, personality and self-esteem, but when the researchers compared the questionnaires with the ratings, none of these seemed to affect their judgements of their partners. Nor did the matching hypothesis really seem to hold up: more attractive partners tended to be liked more, regardless of whether they matched with their partner in attractiveness. But, in defect of the matching hypothesis, Walster et al. suggested that this was because a short-term dating situation like a dance was a different matter from a long-term relationship, and that people would use different criteria to evaluate partners in the two cases.

Consequently, in 1969, Walster and Walster set up another 'computer dance', but this time the research participants were able to meet each other before hand, and were also able to indicate what sort of a partner they would like to have, in terms of physical attractiveness. They found that in this case, people were more attracted to those who were judged as being equally attractive, which appeared to support the matching hypothesis.

Huston (1973), however, argued that this result didn't really come from matching, but because people were afraid of being rejected by their prospective partners. So somebody who was only averagely attractive would deliberately choose someone similar, not because they really found them most attractive, but because they didn't want to be rejected by somebody who was more attractive than they were. Huston performed a study in which research participants were asked to choose a partner from a group of people who had already seen their photograph and indicated that they would accept them as partner. In this situation, research participants often chose partners who were rated as more attractive then themselves, which seemed to support the idea that the choices made in the Walster study were based on avoiding possible rejection. However, it is still uncertain that this really challenges the matching hypothesis as it still means that people would tend to pair up with others of approximately equal attractiveness.

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Hill et al. (1976) found that couples who stayed together were not only similar in age and intelligence, but also physical attractiveness than were couples whose relationships broke down. We prefer people similar to us for several reasons: they are likely to share our interests and enjoy the same activities; they validate our attitudes and general view of the world, thereby enhancing our self-esteem; they are easy and relaxing to communicate with.

According to a study by Murstein (1972), people tend to choose a partner of similar levels of attractiveness. He asked a group of people to judge the attractiveness ...

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