A Fathers Abuse

        Constantly Sanders mother would yell at his father for drinking. She didn’t like this man intoxicated just like everyone else. When his father drinks he would lay around yelling at Sanders mother violent and cruel things such as, “Say just one more word, one goddamn word, and ill shut you up!”(215). Sanders was mortified by the thought and kept quiet for when his father was drinking he was violent and scary. When sober he was go loving and gentle. Playing Fun games in the yard and even kind to his mother. He was once again the complete opposite. A man that couldn’t hurt a fly.

        His mood would also change. Happy to angry in 3.5 seconds. They never knew what to say in fear of him getting mad. Everyone would be too busy just trying to stay out of his way. When he would come home from his moments of leaving he was the happiest man. The kids would get so excited and hope there real dad was back. “he would sometimes go weeks,…without drinking.”(216). They were always fooled though because that angry man full of range was sure enough to come back with his favorite poison.

        Lastly his father fought a constant battle with love and hate. When he was drinking you could say he hated everything. Atleast by the way he treated everything. All of the yelling, fighting, lying, Sanders father looked like a man full of hate. Even though he loved his family he treated them with no respect and love when there was alcohol in his system. Then the contrast of personalities would come back again because when sober he was a loving man. Who would hug and kiss his children, tell them how much he loved them and cared about them, and made them feel important and appreciated. That was something that was not even a possibility when drinking.

        Sanders father was a lot of thing, cruel, violent, hateful, and deceitful, but he was also a man that in the inside was full of love and faith. He always wanted the best for his wife and children and they never wanted to up on him. Sanders proves that statement by saying, ”Each time alcohol transformed our father we held out the same hope, that he would really and truly come back to us, our authentic father, the tender and playful and competent man, and then all things would be fine.”(216). No matter what happened and what Sanders goes through to this day he loves his father even though he had a disease that overpowered him.