gender comunication differences
Lynch
Brian Lynch
English 20
Dr. McKinney
28 September 2012
Mom and Dad’s Communication Differences
Many days end with a long commute home after a study intensive day of school or a hard day of work. Pulling into the driveway of a quiet neighborhood my mind is scattered and ready for relaxation. Walking through the garage I crack the fridge to grab a cold beer. Mr. Samuel Adams is the only supplement that will get me through the bombarding of conversation that is about to ensue. Just as I walk through the door a deep breath is taken. Finally I am ready for the various conversations my family will attempt to extract out of me, just as a dentist pulls teeth. Every day I experience difference’s in language between men and women. Conversations between each parental figure differ and provide concrete evidence about gender communication. As John Piece once stated “Communication is not only the essence of being human, but also a vital property of life.” As vital as water is to life, language flows in all different direction depending on its source.
Humans use language to create a flow of conversation between each other in order to sustain relationships. Deborah Tannen writes there is a noteworthy variance between how men and women communicate. Rapport-talk is using language as a way of establishing connections and relationships with others (62). Since women are trying to establish relationships, they tend to speak more privately. Interacting with my mother at home provides an exact replica of how women chat at home. Walking through the door I am instantly greeted with a “how was your day?” Who will drop the whole kit and caboodle she’s doing at the moment. Evolving a football linebacker’s stance I prepare for a flurry of questions. One question after the other beating me senseless until I have nothing left to say, my mom continues to pursue a connection of interaction through conversation. Bless her soul, my mother is articulate and has a large vocabulary. Since becoming an adult and the only child in the household her only way to connect is through dialogue. Being annoyed with all the words, I learned to realize the style of communication she taught me about being sincere in conversation giving people your full attention. There is always constant talk of how much she loves me and is proud no matter what road I am on in my life. Women feel a desire to share and articulate their thoughts, as a way to grow closer and experience a greater connection with the listener.