Children have a special bond with each parent, the bond you have with your son may not be the same as the bond with your daughter. I have been told that girls have a closer bond with their fathers and boys have a closer bond with their mother. I don’t think that is true, I have a daughter and I believe she and I have a closer bond than she and her father has, that may be because she is the only child. So bonding with your children is extremely important, without it how would you know what your children are doing or what is going on in their lives. You don’t just have to sit at home with your kids to bond with them, you can take them shopping, to the movies, most importantly make their friends feel comfortable coming around you, that way even when your child gets to be a teenager you will still be able to spend time with them and they will be at home more often.
Siblings almost always seem to have a rivalry with each other since their relationships last for a lifetime, but the nature of this relationship varies from one generation to the next. All parents have good intentions wanting to treat both kids the same way. You try not to get angry with one child more than the other, so that one won’t think they are getting the short end of the stick. But keep in mind that each child is different and must be handled differently. Parent must realize that being fair all the time with your children is not serving the child any justice. It is okay to praise your children when it is earned. Siblings will squabble; dealing with the issues of that squabble can be a headache, especially when you don’t know what, or who started the problem. Dealing with these squabbles will most likely leave one child feeling they have been given the short end of the stick again anyway.
It is a parent’s responsibility to keep their children safe and build trust with them so that they can be assured that if they need help the parent will be there. As a parent you have to trust your child, if you are raising them correctly you should not have anything to worry about; it also helps them to trust in others. They will know they have someone to talk to about things that happen in their lives. Parents should not ever have their children afraid to talk to them about anything. That is how children get involved with the wrong type of things such as alcohol and drugs. Is searching your child’s room a breach of trust? I would have to say yes and no, yes if you have no suspicions of anything out of the ordinary, and no if your child has started acting out in an unusual way. Even though you search the child’s room, it is invading their privacy. When I was coming up my parents told me as long as I was in their house I had no privacy, because they paid the bills and I was renting a room. But today if you tell your kid something like that, some will want to fight or even run away from home. You have to make your children understand that as a parent it is up to you to protect them, lay down the rules and that is what you’re trying to do. You have to let them know who is in charge, or they will walk all over you. If you are raising your child correctly, you have to let them make their own decision and hope they make the right one.
In today’s world we have all sorts of technology that we blame for all of our children mistakes. Technology is not what ruins our children; it is what they get out of it or how they take it in. Children have a mind of their own, yes they can be influenced easily but once again if they have morals and values they will think before they react. With technology, it can help you help your child with their homework by means of research on the computer (which has a lot of data that you can filter through to find information); you will be able to keep in touch with them by means of cell phone. As a parent we will have to monitor our children’s use of technology to ensure that they are staying away from the bad stuff online and are in fact learning. My daughter loves to be on the computer, but I block certain sites out so that she can’t go to them especially those that I know are not good. I also block all those pop-ups that come up while you are on the internet. Some nights when she gets off the computer I log on and go to the history page to see what she has been on. I also give her a time to be off the house phone and cell phone. I believe children should be in bed no later than 10 p.m. She has to have all her chores, homework, bath, and everything done by 9:30 p.m. so she can be in bed for 10 p.m.
Raising children is a job all by itself; parents that work for a living have two jobs, raising their children and a 9-5. We may put our kids in daycare while we go to work but who at the daycare is teaching our children morals, values, and responsibility. We really don’t know if we are not doing it ourselves. Closing this paper I would like to commend single parents like myself for the wonderful job that they are doing with their children. It is hard work; someone has to do it for the children sake. We want our children to grow up and become somebody and to make us proud.
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