An individual with high self-esteem will behave and interpret things by the way they view themselves e.g. a person would say that after passing an exam that they wrote by saying that it’s because they revised and worked hard to get the good grades.
Rogers’s uses two different concepts to describe the development in self which are the conditional and unconditional regard.
The unconditional regard is when a child gets praised no matter what kind behaviour they have either bad or good they will always get the love they need from their parents. The positive regard is not even withdrawn when the person does something wrong or makes a mistake. The conditional regard is when the child gets praised when they do something that their parents believe is correct, the child won’t be loved of who they are but they will be loved and praised because of the way the act and the way they please their parents.
A child who was raised where they had unconditional regard will have the opportunity to do whatever they like and reach their potential as they get supported even if they’d make mistakes down the road, but if the child grew up in a household where there as conditional regard then it will take them time to get where they want to go as they fell that they need to meet some certain conditions.
John Bowlby believes that self-esteem start as soon as an individual is born. He goes on to say the way parents treat their kids and the way a child is raised play the most important role in the development of a child. An emotional attachment can be thought of a unique feeling that usually happened between a child and an adult. They will be feeling as if they are a need to be close, feel distressed when they are apart and pleasure when they have been re-united
Bowlby went created the attachment theory, he says if a parent is physically, emotional attached to their child, then that individual is bound to travel the world feeling more safer and more protected. The child knows whenever they get sick and frightened their parents are always going to be there to look after them.
If they are feeling accepted and safe then they will develop positive self-esteem.
Secure – parents who are warm, sensitive and attentive to their children. Children will have a high self-esteem and be more confident.
Avoidant- Parents who are constantly annoyed, cold and insensitive. Children will have a low self-esteem and be troublesome.
Ambivalent – Parents who are positive, but inconsistent, can do damage child self-esteem.
The type of attachment the child has with their parents has an effect on their self-esteem.
I have looked at both theories and they both focus on the things that affect self –esteem. The difference on both theories is that Karl Rogers believes that the way you are and the way you want to be are the things that can have a big impact on a person’s life. He says that a person can have high self –esteem because everything they do is based on the way they view themselves., he goes on to say when an individual has a low self-esteem it’s because they have a mismatch between self and ideal self. But John Bowlby believes on something completely different because he says a person’s self-esteem start at birth and that a person’s childhood and the way they were treated when they were young plays very big part on building someone’s self-esteem. He bases self-esteem on 4 different attachments and says it depends which one a child has because the attachments are the ones that have a big effect on self-esteem.
They both state that self-esteem is going to be experienced at a very young age and they both believe that the self-esteem is built by parents to their kid. The only similarities they have are that they both believe that self-esteem is built at a young age and that the parents have a big role on creating a child’s self-esteem.
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