Sexual - sexual abuse is the participation of dependent socially undeveloped children and young person in sexual activities in which they do not understand some of the abusers are normally to their every needs, they expect undivided attention and when the victim gives it to the person it is still not enough. the victim ill be a subject to constant criticism they tend to manipulate,ignore,reject dominate
Feminist – sexual abuse
Sociological approach:the feminist perspective on sexual child abuse has been articulated by several writers in the USA and Britain(Rush 1980;Herman 1981; Dominelli 1986;Nelson 1987 ;Macleod and sarga 1988) suggested that boys and men learnt to experience their sexuality as an uncontrollable force,they had learnt to focus their sexual feelings on submissive objectsand they learn the assertion of their sexual desires,th expectation of having them serviced.
Therefore in my opinion the power relationship between men and women is empowering ,our society is male dominated and to take into account that our children are there to control at the retention of male member of the family, but forgets that many abusers can be women , although women are less likely to sexual abuse children compared to men, women learn better than men in order to differentiate sexual and non – sexual affection while men see heterosexual accomplishment as more significant, men are socialize to believe sexual acts from the environment of a relationship and men desire younger partners and smaller, in cases of child abuse the abuser has a strong sexual feeling for young children.
Jillian is a 13 year old girl with no siblings who lives alone with her dad in a 3 bedroom house,her mum died 6 years ago from breast cancer and because of that jillian has not got a mother figure to confide in especially when she is feeling lonely and upset or do the things mothers and daughters do together, her dad is always at work and works late shift ,she only see’s him in the morning when she’s getting ready to go school but when she comes home he’s always sleeping and too tired to talk to her or show her attention, while jillian was at school she notices that all her friend have a social networking site called facebook one of her friend later on persuades her to make one aswell and how it is the latest trend and almost everyone in school has facebook and is a easier way to stay in contact with friends and make friends,jillian see’s this as an opportunity to talk to people when she is feeling lonely at home so she makes her way home and gets out her laptop and made her own profile on this netoworking site, she finds it very fascinating and fun and in an instance she was getting a lot of friend request within 2 hours, every day jillian will quickly make her way home to activate her profile on this networking site and will spend the whole day on it, one day she had noticed a friend request from a boy named Jason they start talking every day he tells her he as 14 and tells her to send pictures of herself because she is so beautiful,they swap number but he fails to ever call her except text her,she instantly starts to like him ,he tells her that they should meet up to go cinema and asks her what film she would want to watch they set a date and time to meet at the exact cinema,the next day jillian gets ready enroute to go see him she did not tell her dad because he was at work ,whilst she is on the train when she gets a text from him with his adress telling her to come his house that he had had to make a turn for it home seeing as he had left his money at home , she makes her way to his house and knocks on the door when she gets there,a strange man looking in his mid forties opens the door and immediately says Jason is upstairs in his bedroom I will direct you to the sitting room she smiles and says okay with a confused expression, behind her the man locks the door and follows her to the sitting room he quickly grasps her from behind and holds her mouth and whispers in her ears “Jason is not hear but me” he tells her if she screams he will kill her and she should do everything he says ,he has sexual intercourse with out her consent and tells her “I know where you live if you tell anyone about this I will come to your house and kill your dad and you”
Due to this Jillian may do poorly at school she might day dream and depart herself from her peers and people, she will act out or even seek attention, she will find it hard to have any close relationship with any one including in her age criteria and may not invite them over to their house or to play and when she gets older she might have sexual troubles by resisting and form of sexual intercourses or may have intercourse but not enjoy it, she start showing anxiety signs when she is with a certain adult and can become very upset and self conscious when they are in a environment that they must undress for instance PE, Jillian will find it hard to show self confidence and enthusiasm she will feel very unappealing and may even start cutting her arms to release the mental pain she is going through, she will deny her self- worth and preferable start taking drugs, she may self neglect herself in terms of personal hygiene and become bulimia or even anorexic ,studies show that 90% of women who are alcoholic now where prone to sexual abuse.she may even become pregnant but in the future if she does happen to have children her motherly natural feeling will create a physically powerful and safe bond with them.
Sociological -Physical abuse
Leoni lives with her stepdad and the oldest of her half siblings who are age 5 and 6 she,she is originally from the carribean but was born in the uk.her mother left her step dad with no warning or a goodbye a year ago and ever since then no one has heard from her,he is left to support the kids with no female role model and had lost his job recently he has been to so many interview since then but no positive result he believes it because of his cultural background this has now led him to severe depression, with no regular income he is can’t support his family financially,no new clothes or food this had made him vulnerable on alcohol ,he becomes an intense drinker and does nothing but drink all day ,leoni who is starting to grow out of her clothes goes to her dad to ask for money to buy new clothes, he immiditely gets angry and starts shouting and hits her then he says”this is all down to your evil mother” , leoni is unaware that he is drunk and runs to her room and starts crying, he starts to resent her presence in the house and looks for every opportunity to hit her, he throws bottle of alcohol on her head and slaps her constantly, he says to her “in Jamaica my mother would use a stick and hit me but your getting it easy”he believes that she needs to be disciplined because she does not appreciate what she has other wise she wouldn’t come to him and ask for money to buy new clothes,he disciplines the other children but not the way he disciplines leoni.
due to this leoni will have diddiculties in school and find it hard to thrive, she will become under weight lack personal hygiene and may appear to be dirty and krempt,she could get pain or itching in the genital area due to thrush ,she will become aggressive as a way of lashing out or hostile,she may even start self harming ,due to her father beating her down she will always have a fractured bone or any sort of injury, she can become mildly depressed and have severe low self esteem , there is a likely chance that she will become abusive towards her own children when she is older or she might end up being a strong person in the future,she is likely to become withdrawn and shy as an adult and have low self esteem,she will find hard to learn and trust people or maintain future relationships with men because of the fear of being controlled and physically hit upon consistently by a man
Medical – neglect abuse
mariana is a 15 year old child who lives with her mum in a two bedroom flat, her and her mum do not see eye to eye on a everyday basis, her mum does not seem to notice that mariana is in the house or even acknowledge that she has a daughter half the time , her focus is on her new boyfriend called Michael that is always coming to the house on more than one occasion and will sit in the sitting room and watch football all day till its night time then he goes home,mariana will go school and come back and still find him on the couch.the boyfriend sees mariana as a distraction and urges the mum to give her up to social services so it can just be them two in the house,he influences mum to beat mariana when mum and mariana get into arguments,he brain washes mum and tells her “she is a very stubborn child she does not respect you otherwise she wont chat back you”mum stops giving mariana pocket money all together and fails to provide her with school accessories,mariana goes to school looking constantly scruffy and with poor health because her mum refuses to take her to the local GP for concerns,the mum starts to shout and hit mariana just to please the boyfriend ,when the mum is not around the boyfriend whispers hurtful things into mariana’s ears, she tries to tell her mum but her mum doesn’t believe her and chooses the boy friends words over hers, the mother is constantly with the boyfriend .
Due to this mariana is likely to harm herself,wet the bed and even have nightmares,she will no thrive in her school work,the abuse is likely to influence the relationship she makes with people in her early life and later life and how she will possibly parent her own children,she will encounter stress and other stimulating situation including self harm,she can tend to be over weight and have persistant infections,she will not fully develop her abilities such as being tired, and toilet problems , poor intellectual ability and will find it difficult to express her feelings or concentrate , her speech will be delayed,she will show lack of bonding and lead to insecure attachment towards others,she will have low self esteem , self regard, anxiety and depression or may even become aggressive ,she will isolate her self and find it hard to keep friendship due to this , shemiht be getting bullied or does not get enough attention from friends by being excluded from her peers she may get involved with other peers that are gang related and show anti social behavior and bully other children, her school attendance are likely to be poor meaning she will not thrive,in later life she may start drinking alcohol ,criminal activity and get into sexual exploitation relationship, she could attempt to suicide and still continue harming herself due to the fact she finds it hard to form relationships , she is likely to suffer from domestic violence by getting involved with a violent partner and the same way her mother treated her she will pass it on to her own children,she may become a scavenger by looking for extra food,she will show behavioural signs such as rocking or head banging as a self comforting behavior.
Emotional – 12 year old matthew lives with both his parent but unffortunatley they both work night shift due to this his uncle has to baby sit him every night ,his uncle starts peer pressuring him about his sexuality,continuously calling him “Gay” at first matthew thought it was ajoke but then his uncle continued every single day , he would ask him if he had a girlfriendwhen Mathew said no he would laugh and say “just admit it you are gay” he tells matthew that if he does not loose his virginity at a certain age then he is definitely gay , he urges Mathew to have sex and to lose his virginity,Mathew refuses to do this then he insist that Mathew is pathetic and a baby ,he continuously puts down Mathews self esteem,he forces matthew to watch a video of two men intercoursing and another with a woman and man, he tells Mathew that he knows he prefers the one with the two men because he hasn’t got any girlfriendor had sex ith a girl before to prove that he is not gay.
He could show inappropriate behavior in which he iseither immature or mature for his age,dramtic behavioral changes such as if he was to be in a classroom he will be very disruptive,he becomes clingy and compulsively seek affection and attention,he can become aggressive, uncooperative, and wets bed,he becomes very anti social constantly being withdrawn and sad, poor relationship with his age mates and his self confidence will decrease and will restrict him from showing emotions or develop an emotional bond with another individual this will greatly affect his emotional development and wil rather prefer his own companyin his later life he will most probably find it difficult to illustrate emotions , he will not be able to value or control his own emotional feeling. ,he will become scared to go home or being left alone, due to hius uncles pressure he may become gay and tries to deny it leading to suicide that his uncle was right all this time or he could grow up to have sexual intercourse with different girls but lacking to show emotion towards them and will possibly end up with a sex transmitted infection.
