There can be a negative attitude towards going to school for the first time as children may not feel excited or they feel so attached to their Mom or Dad that they don’t want to be left at school. They may even be afraid of the teachers and children and so they may not want to go back again. The fact that they might not want to play with others means they won’t meet new people and with all of this it may be considered as the worst day of their lives.
Some children can’t wait to go to school and on their first day there is lots of excitement. With children being used to be left with carers and other people, leaving their parents at the door of school won’t be that stressful and upsetting as they are quite used to not being with their parents. They find school exciting and they enjoy learning and being with other children.
The birth of a sibling
When a baby is born there is a lot of excitement and a new relationship is developed quite quickly, as a new one develops a relationship between the new mother and their other daughter/son can change. The news of a new baby coming into the family can excite younger children, as they may want someone to play with and someone to look after, however an older children may feel jealousy when the baby is born as they may feel the child is taking their place as they might not have realised how much care and attention a baby needs and so feelings of being unwanted and lonely can occur.
When a child is born it is easy for the parents to make the older children feel wanted they can do this by getting them to help with caring for the baby. The older child may also feel happy with the fact they have a sibling because it is someone to hang out with and play with. The self-esteem in the older child may rise as they believe they have a responsibility in making sure their younger sibling is ok. However the child can feel resentful of the baby because the baby may be getting more attention off their parents and so as they get older they may start competing for their parents attention.
Leaving home
Leaving home can be done in so many different ways
- Going away to university
- Moving out with a partner
- Running away
- Moving out because you’re old enough to and you have the money to
All of them can have different effects on people.
If the person has left home because they are old enough to or moving out with a partner can have a great impact on the self-esteem of a person as they are going to feel more grown up and responsible as they now have the money to have a place of their own. Going away to University will be an adventure and so they might go far away from home, and they may realise that where they are at University they may want to live or they may miss their family too much and so after finishing studying they may decide to come home.
Running away from home can have a negative effect on a person as there must have been a reason why they ran away; they may have been abused and instead of finding accommodation as soon as they arrived at where they was going, this means they may be sleeping rough and this can make them feel unwanted and unloved and that they are good for nothing.
Bereavement
People die during any life stage, this can be either due to an accident or due to an illness; however many people tend to live a very long life before we lose them. Loosing someone you love, care about and respect can be extremely difficult, if it is a loss of a partner the survivor may be that distraught that they become depressed and even die not long after their partner has, which is called dying of a broken heart. With losing a partner of so long can mean it gets some taking used to, to become a person living on their own again. Those who are emotionally stronger will try and move on with their life, this doesn’t mean they don’t care, it just means they are stronger if they move on instead of living in the past and upsetting themselves, however some people may be that upset by the fact they have lost someone it can take them a while to get out of the rut they put themselves into.