Being and feeling that you belong to part of a group, whatever the size can help support you in learning.
Tutors/peers can be encouraging and help people in their learning by allowing them choices as control over what one is doing can raise self-esteem. Subtle, effective phrases that could be said to someone who always hands thing in last minute could be
“ I’m glad you got it done” instead of “ took your time, I never thought I was going to get it”
Use non-judgemental language, be specific, acknowledge what the person is saying and respond appropriately. Making positive and explicit statements like
“ That was effective” or “ That was interesting” can really help boost a persons confidence and in turn help increase their self-esteem.
Share reasons behind the feedback you are giving to a person because this may help them to meet their own expectations and avoid lowering self-esteem when they know why and how to continue developing positively.
“Non-verbal support such as a thumbs up can give encouragement to people of all ages” DFES Publication 0121/2001 Promoting children’s mental Health
This is certainly seems to work well in an educating environment, when you are not sure of something and not yet confident enough to ask, a tutor glancing over your shoulder and seeing an uncertain look on your face can wipe that away without saying a word. Getting non-verbal communication right is just as important as verbal as the effect of any confusion about the gesture could result in a lowering self-esteem and therefore work could suffer. Generating confidence can help create ability.
WAYS TO BOOST YOUR SELF-ESTEEM
Exercise can help boost self-esteem due to the release of endorphins which are that stimulate and make people feel more positive.
A quick walk before a lecture can make you feel energised as the oxygen gets into your blood and . Having a healthy and balanced diet may also help contribute to a higher self-esteem because if our bodies are balanced then we may feel better about ourselves and grow with confidence.
This excerpt is taken from the website
“ Davey, the scalpel you left in the patient after the triple bypass punctured the left lung cavity, causing the patient to convulse, haemorrhage and die but you did a great job sewing him back up again”!
This highlights that we all make mistakes but also that we can succeed.
TOP TEN TIPS TO SELF-HELP BOOSTING YOUR SELF-ESTEEM
1 Do things that you enjoy
2 Embrace new challenges
3 Be realistic, not negative
4 Try to help others, it make your feel good about yourself
5 People DO care- try to mix with positive people
6 moderation= self-control that = a healthy self-esteem
7 When in doubt ask, you wont be the only one who doesn’t know, besides who does know everything anyway?
8 Smile, laugh more
9 If you have to try again, it isn’t the end of the world, just going to take a little longer then you first thought
10 and lastly be true to yourself and reflect on your successes however small you may think they are.
Self Esteem Test
This self esteem test is extremely quick and simple, just answer TRUE or FALSE to each question (if you cannot answer 100% TRUE then answer FALSE - check below how to score):
Self esteem test has been written by Karl Perera.
TEST SCORE: Total number of TRUE answers you gave, EACH ONE POINT:
15-16 POINTS - YOU HAVE A HIGH LEVEL OF SELF ESTEEM !
12-14 POINTS - NOT BAD BUT ROOM FOR YOU TO IMPROVE
8-11 POINTS - LOW SELF ESTEEM - IT'S HOLDING YOU BACK
BELOW 8 POINTS - YOUR ESTEEM IS DRASTICALLY LOW
SELF ESTEEM REFERENCES
Promoting childrens mental health- DFES Publication 0121/2001
SELF ESTEEM RESOURCES
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by John Kelly, Brian J. Karem
#2
by Jamie Lee Curtis,
#3
by Judy Lalli,
#4
by Larry J. Koenig
Six Pillars of Self-Esteem (Paperback)
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Revolution from Within : A Book of Self-Esteem (Paperback)
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