Every child is unique: a developmental perspective

The next temperament is the fearful type. These are the more quiet and shy children. They adapt slowly to new environments and take longer than flexible children when adapting to new situations. When presented with a change in environment, fearful children often cling to something or someone familiar. Whether it is the main caregiver or a material object such as a blanket, the fearful child will cling to it until they feel comfortable with the new situation. This can result in a deep attachment of the child to a particular caregiver or object. Fearful children may also withdraw when pushed into a new situation too quickly. They may also withdraw when other children are jumping into a new project or situation they are not comfortable with. Fearful children may tend to play alone rather than with a group. When dealing with fearful children, caregivers find they need more attention than flexible children. One of the most effective techniques when dealing with these children is just taking it slowly and helping the child become more comfortable with the surroundings.

The third temperament type is called feisty. A feisty child expresses their opinions in a very intense way. Whether they are happy or mad, everyone around them will know how they feel. These children remain active most of the time, and this causes them to be very aggressive. Feisty children often have the tendency to have a negative persistence and will go on and on nagging, whining and negotiating if there is something they particularly want. Unlike flexible children, feisty children are irregular in their napping and feeding times, and they do not adapt well to changes in their routines. They get used to things and won’t give them up. Anything out of the ordinary could send them into some tantrum. If these children are not told about the change, they may react very negatively. Feisty children also tend to be very sensitive to their surrounding environment. As a result, they may have strong reactions to their surroundings. In order to deal properly with these children, the caregiver will have to teach the child that expressing anger through hurtful or disruptive behavior is not acceptable. If there is going to be a change in the child’s routine, the caregiver will have an easier time with the child if he or she has been warned of the change.

Anyone who has spent time with or around children will notice that each one has a special personality. In general, children can be divided into these three groups, but caregivers must not forget that each child is unique. Whatever their temperament is, children need to be treated according to their individual needs. When these needs are satisfied, the child will be happier, and those around the child will feel better also.