The third stanza is directed at cousin Kate. She is married to the lord. We know this because the cottage maiden calls her “O Lady Kate” but she also reminds her that she is still her cousin by calling her “My cousin Kate”.
She says that her cousin grew more fair than herself so the lord change Kate over her because he only judges by looks and does not care about personality. He spied on you when you worked on the fields and watched your steps along the lane and then he lifted you from mean estate and took you to his palace to live away from your friends just like he did to me.
In stanza four society looks down on cousin Kate because she now lives with the lord and she left them, so that she could be wealthier and of a higher class. Cousin Kate would not sleep with the lord until they got married because in medieval times it was thought to be dirty and unclean if you had sex before marriage. So he bound her with a ring and they got married. The cottage maiden is classed as an outcast thing, which is saying that she had been reduced to something below a human. This is because she had sex with a man before they got married.
Her friends do not want to know her anymore because she abandoned them for the lord, so why should they take her back. She is compared to an animal not being happy by saying, “even though I sit and howl in dust”. The cottage maiden is not happy because she really did love the lord but cousin Kate did not love him. She just married him because she wanted the money.
In stanza five the first two lines show that cousin Kate did not really love the lord. It says that her love was writ in sand, which means that it can easily blow away. He fooled me but did not fool you. The cottage maiden accuses cousin Kate of being bought by the lord because she wanted more money and to be of a higher class. She says he would not have won her with his love or bought her with his land because she was her cousin, and she would have back into his face and she would not have married him. I would not have married him because I knew I would be upsetting you, but you went through with it even though you knew that I loved him and had feelings for him.
In the last stanza the cottage maiden boasts about having a baby because cousin Kate does not have any children, and any gift that the lord gave her cannot be as good as the gift I have got. This means it is not likely that cousin Kate is likely to have children.
There is an oxymoron in this stanza, it is, “My shame, my pride”. This means that the baby is illegitimate, so it is shameful that she had the baby the way that she did, but it is her pride and she loves it. She hugs her baby for safety. There are two meanings for this. They are: -
She could do it because it is an asset or because she is worried that the lord will come and steel it from her. The lord would give anything for an heir to his throne.
MANWATCHING
‘Manwatching’ is set in a more modern time than ‘Cousin Kate’.
This poem ‘Manwatching’ is set in the time span of around one day whereas ‘Cousin Kate’ is nearly a whole lifetime.
This poem is about a man and his girlfriend and another pretty girl.
A man sees a girl he is attracted to. He watches her with his possessive eyes. The girlfriend wonders if she is imagining his silent messages, but she is not, it is really happening. Then the stranger looks across at him and telegraphs her flirtatious reply. This means they are communicating via code, the girl is sending flirtatious messages to him with her eyes. The man’s girlfriend recognises this secret code because it is not the first time it has happened. The pretty stranger is a threat to the man’s girlfriend, and she feels powerless because there is nothing she can do to stop it from happening.
She is calm on the outside but her eyes burn into his back, while her insides shout with rage, this shows hatred by saying her eyes are burning with hate and it shows how she feels about his behaviour, but she is frustrated because she can’t do anything about it. The pretty stranger is sly because she weaves her way towards him, turning on a bewitching smile. This suggests that she is a witch and she could weave spells etc. These lines are an occult of lexical set. It is suggesting things about the rival girl. I cannot see your face, but you are mesmerised I expect. This means to hypnotise someone like a witches spell on her boyfriend. You turn and meet my accusing stare head on. He pretends that he is innocent. Her eyes follow yours, meet mine and then slide away. This is slithery and snake like. This shows that she did not like the boy enough to try and win him from his girlfriend. The man says he is bored so they go. They pass girl in the hall and the man’s girlfriend says “bye” frostily. She is being sarcastic and mocking her and boasting. She also feels cold towards her. She has triumphed over the other woman because she went away with him.
She supposed that he winked at her because she knows what he is like. She knows that it is not over and it won’t stop.
COMPARISONS AND DIFFERENCES BETWEEN “COUSIN KATE AND MANWATCHING
Some comparisons between the two poems “Cousin Kate” and “manwatching” are: -
They are both triangular situations, which is where there is one man and two women. Both of the poems are about problems with relationships. In “Cousin Kate” the cottage maiden and the lord had an affair and that was ended because of the cottage maiden’s cousin, Kate. The lord was attracted to her so they got married. Another comparison is that both of the poems had people watching other people. In “Cousin Kate” the lord was watching the cottage maiden and then later on in the poem he was watching cousin Kate and in “Manwatching” the man was watching the pretty stranger and she was also watching him. There is also unfaithfulness in both of these poems. In cousin Kate the lord is unfaithful to the cottage maiden and cousin Kate is also unfaithful to her cousin the cottage maiden.
Some differences between the two poems “Cousin Kate” and “Manwatching” are: -
In “Cousin Kate” the cottage maiden thought that everything was going to be fine, but in “Manwatching” she could tell what was going to happen because it had happened many times before. Another difference between the two poems is in “Cousin Kate” the couple broke up but in “Manwatching” they ended up staying together. Another difference is “Manwatching” is a modern poem because there is a party and they have telegraphs whereas “Cousin Kate” is an old archaic poem. Another difference is that “Manwatching” is a short story time; it is about one day long whereas “Cousin Kate” is almost a whole lifetime. The final difference between “Manwatching” and “Cousin Kate” is that there are no stanzas and there is no rhyming.