Explain how Hardy shows loss and regret in his poems

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Taranjit Kaur Bedi        Thomas Hardy English Coursework

Explain how Hardy shows loss and regret in his poems

   A writer by the name of Thomas Hardy, was born on the second of June 1940, Dorchester, in Higher Bockhampton, near the countryside, this affected his writing, because his writing always made some sort of reference to nature. Hardy wrote poems and novels. His novels are largely known, his novels were influenced by society, and the main factors within society were the class system for the rich and the poor and inequality and discrimination for women.

  Hardy got married to his first wife Emma in 1874, although the beginning of their marriage got off to a brilliant start, it was not a very happy marriage for the rest of their time together. Emma inspired Hardy’s writing. During his marriage with Emma, he became unfaithful to her and had an affair with a lady called Florence Emily Dougdale, when they met, Florence was at the age of 28.

   In 1912, Hardy lost his wife, Emma and his sister, two years after Emma died, 1914. Hardy then married Florence and bought her back to her his house, the house he had lived in with his first wife. All of this affected Hardy’s poetry, which became more cathartic. We see how the following events affect his poetry in the 3 poem: The Going, The Voice and the poem At Castle Boterel.

   The poem ‘The Going’ tells us about a woman who died, and Hardy had many unresolved questions yet to ask her. The poem opens with the introduction to the idea that woman in this poem gave Hardy no clue that she was leaving:

“Why did you give no hint that night,

… You would close your term here, up and be gone” (Stanza 1, line 1 & 4)
I can infer from my background knowledge, that the woman to whom this poem and the other two poems I’ll be discussing, is aimed at his first wife, who had passed away in the same year this poem was written, 1912.

   “Where I could not follow

     With wings of swallow” (Stanza 1, line 6 & 7)

When Hardy uses this type of imagery, it makes the audience think that she, Emma, left in a dignified way, because swallows are graceful birds, and that he cannot follow her because she has gone to a better place, maybe heaven. But he cannot follow because of the sinful thing he did on Earth (he had an affair). This shows his feelings of loss and regret because it makes the reader think that that he is missing her terribly, because she has flown off and left him, and he cannot follow her because he is just a mere insignificant man whereas she is an elegant, serene bird of flight, a swallow.

   Stanza 2 starts off describing a person, presumably his late wife, Emma:

   “Or lip me the softest call” (Stanza 2, Line 9)

Gives the image that the woman used to whisper it also emphasises her intangibility and delicacy. This stanza makes the reader feel the emptiness and the feeling of loss and blankness Hardy feels without here.

    “Saw morning harden upon the wall” (Stanza 2, Line 11)

This shows how Hardy uses nature to fit into the context. That line is meant to add feeling that nature is hard and doesn’t care. It also shows the coldness that ravaged his body, which marked the changing of his world:

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 “altered all” (Stanza 2, Line 14)

   “Unmoved, unknowing” (Stanza 2, Line 12) creates a contrast from the stanza before. The mood from the stanza before is of confusion and admiration. But in this stanza certain words and phrases create a blunt, sharp and sorrowful mood of finality. The mood of finality also creates a mood of loss and regret, because Hardy has to get used to life without his late wife, Emma. And that there is no going back for him to rectify his mistakes. Emma’s death has made things final, no going back.

   And the lines: “Till ...

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