“Here's much to do with hate, but more with love”
Where he says, "Here's much to do with" we would say something like "There's much to-do about," and Romeo means that no matter how much people talk about hate, love is more interesting.
Romeo then launches into a series of paradoxes describing love, or at least the kind of love he is experiencing, which we would call a hopeless crush. It is both love and hate at the same time. It is , something that can take many forms, be anything, but created out of nothing. It is a sad happiness and a serious foolishness. It is a , a phrase which evokes the lover's experience of daydreaming about his beloved, but in such a jumbled way, that it's more frustrating than enjoyable.
Romeo reels off some more paradoxes about love, then concludes with one about his feelings: , which means that he feels love, but is not in love with being in love. He also suspects that he's a fool for being such a fool for love, and asks Benvolio, . Benvolio, however, is understanding and says that he grieves for Romeo's unhappy state. Benvolio's grief for him only adds to Romeo's burden; he's not only unhappy, he's responsible for Benvolio's unhappiness. Romeo says, [i.e., brotherly love for Romeo] . Nevertheless, Romeo adds more paradoxes to his list. He says that love is the smoke made of sighs, and when the smoke is cleared away, it's a fire in a lover's eyes. It's a stormy sea of tears. It's a sane insanity. It's a bitter poison and a sweet medicine.
The strongest case of love found during the play is the love between Romeo Montague and Juliet Capulate themselves who were victims of Cupid's arrows. They were truly “star-crossed.” Juliet needed Romeo to get away from her overprotective parents who were planning her future and if Juliet disobeyed her parents in anyway, they would have disowned her,
“Hang thee, young baggage! disobedient wretch!
I tell thee what: get thee to church o' Thursday,
Or never after look me in the face.”
Ironically, it is at a party that Lord Capulet held so that Juliet could meet her intended future husband, Paris, where she met her future husband, Romeo. They met by chance; falling in love at first site whilst they looked into each other’s eyes and instantly became attracted.
There first conversation was sealed with a kiss. The meeting was regretted, however. Romeo and Juliet knew a relationship wouldn't be accepted with them being from feuding rival families. It was too late for them to turn back though, they had fallen in love. When Juliet found out she had started to love Romeo, she didn't change her feeling, she simply said,
“My only love sprung form only hate
Too early seen unknown, and know too late
Prodigious birth of love it is to me
That I must love a loathed enemy.”
“Too early seen unkown, and known too late" suggests that if Juliet had known Romeo to be a Montague she wouldn't have fallen in love with him, but now it's "too late." She feels, like Romeo, that love is once and forever, and they both fear the consequences of their love, but without any thought of changing their minds or hearts.
Balcony scene
The more love she gives the more she gets
Loves brings her both pleasure and pain
Doting on someone is different to loving them
Shakespeare also shows parental love in the play, whilst also showing that the fathers and mothers have a different relationship with their sons and daughters. For example, Lady Montague dies once Romeo is banished. On the other hand, Lord Capulate has a much more forceful relationship with Juliet in terms of the arranged marriage with Paris.
Parents always do what they think is best for you and is in your best interests, in this case, Juliet’s parents plan an arranged marriage with Paris, and if she doesn’t thank them for their efforts because it isn’t what she wanted, they will often get upset. This is another subtle indication of love in Romeo and Juliet. This point may explain why both Romeo and Juliet fail to really communicate fully with their parents and have their own figure to turn to.
The relationship between the Nurse and Juliet also provides a theme of love.
The Nurse is Juliet's best friend but is better described as her mum because she does everything any loving mother should do - the nurse cares for Juliet, knows exactly when she was born, and has fond memories of her childhood. The Nurse acted like a messenger, meeting with Romeo to discuss wedding plans for him and Juliet. Juliet often turns to the Nurse for advice, saying . However, the Nurse thinks it would be best for Juliet to marry Paris, since Romeo is as good as dead and Paris is better looking anyway. Juliet is outraged, but covers it up in order to buy some time. With a bit of hidden sarcasm, Juliet tells the Nurse that she has been a great comfort. She also tells her to go tell Juliet's mother that . This implies that Juliet has changed her mind about marrying Paris, so the Nurse is pleased with Juliet and hurries away to deliver the message. As soon as the Nurse has turned her back, Juliet reveals her true attitude towards her, exclaiming, . Juliet will never again trust her, never again share with her the secrets of her heart. She says,
The fact that Juliet has gone from looking up to the nurse to never trusting her in the space of less than one scene shows the nature of love and hate in the same way that Romeo felt he was in love with Rosaline, until he met Juliet. The way Juliet treats the nurse also indicates that she is more of a mother as she often treats the nurse the way you would probably treat your mother. In this case by lying to the nurse. The nurse also tries to step in where possible to protect Juliet
When Capulet threatens and insults Juliet for refusing to marry Paris, the Nurse tries to intervene. She says, [berate] , but her courage earns her nothing but insults.
Romeo also has the same kind of relationship with the friar. He acts as a father figure. For example he tries to advise Romeo to . We get to see the Friars true father side when Romeo is banished having killed Tybalt. He hides in Friar Laurence's cell, and the Friar comes home to tell Romeo his fate. Apparently Romeo is concealed somewhere in the cell, so the Friar has to call him out: [frightened] . A person's "parts" are his qualities, such as honor, courage, etc.; the Friar is expressing sympathy for poor Romeo because he seems to be married to bad luck. However, the Friar's sympathy soon turns to impatience when it turns out that Romeo thinks banishment worse than death. The Friar tries and tries to talk some sense into Romeo, but Romeo refuses to listen until the Friar advises him to spend the night with Juliet and then go to Mantua. The Friar also takes on the responsibility of solving the rest of Romeo's problems; he tells Romeo to stay in Mantua [make known] .
Another unusual relationship is that of Lord and Lady Capulate. It isn’t very clear whether or not the relationship is one of love or just marriage.
In the scene in which Lady Capulet encourages Juliet to look upon Paris as her future husband, the nurse interrupts with a long story about Juliet's weaning, in which she says to Lady Capulet [Capulet] . Later in the scene Lady Capulet says to Juliet, . By this, it appears that Lady Capulet is now about twenty-six. Capulet is at least forty, so he must have married when he was past twenty-seven and his bride was less than half his age.
Romeo refuses to fight Tybalt, humiliating himself in the process, yet he is doing it for his love for Juliet, taking abuse from Tybalt,
This shows that love can be dangerous because two people die because of the love Romeo holds for Juliet.
Shakespeare then makes you wonder just how much Romeo loves Juliet. Romeo humiliates himself when he refuses to fight Tybalt because of his love for Juliet, yet kills Tybalt showing that hate overcomes love in this case.
In terms of the family love between each of the rival Capulates and Montagues, I feel there isn’t any, and that actually there is just family pride. This isn’t a form of hate, but it means that in this case Shakespeare decided not to use love.
I felt that Shakespeare shows love between the two rivals through Romeo and Juliet. The hatred between the houses of Capulet and Montague was known throughout the town of Verona. Hatred had reached the lowest servants from each of the families. Due to the hate, the relationship of Romeo and Juliet would never have been public. The feuding families would have condemned the relationship, something the two lovers could not accept. However, you could also argue that this means the play is about hate as it is the hate which brings the two together, not the lover spurred from the hate in this case.
In Act 1, scene 2, the fact that Romeo and his friends were uninvited, but still attended the Capulet's party, added to Tybalt's anger. Tybalt was the personification of hatred between the Capulet and Montague families. Tybalt and Mercutio were always ready for a fight. The prince was sick of the fighting and said death would come to anyone from either house if they were caught fighting in public. However, both families still thought that they had to show superiority, and future fights would still be inevitable. The constant violence led to the ‘accidental’ killing of Mercutio by Tybalt. In his last minutes, Mercutio realised the immaturity of the families' feuds, which is ironic because it was often Mercutio who took part in such violence, when he said,
“A plague o' both your houses.”
In a period of impulse and rage, Romeo took it upon himself to get revenge by killing Tybalt. This murder caused Romeo to be banished from Verona and separated from his love Juliet. It is hate which splits Romeo and Juliet up.
Escales, Prince of Verona, represents the law in this play. It is during Act 1 Scene 1 that Shakespeare truly lets us understand how the situation between Capulates and Montagues has escalated.
Scene 5 act 3 line 49,60 and 75
Act 5 scene 3 line 286 the prince
Friar explains the whole story…
After analysing the love and hate sides to Romeo and Juliet, I have come to the conclusion that it is about love overcoming hate due to the fact that by the end of the story, Romeo and Juliet are in love with each so much that they kill themselves, and as a consequence the parents forget the hate their possess for each other.
