Love and Loss

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Shariar Vicky English Coursework   08/12/2007   10:31 AM  

Love and Loss

Referring to 6 poems (3 in great detail), explore how each poet conveys the pleasure or pain of love.

 In this essay I am going to refer to six Pre 1914 poems and 3 poems in detail , I will also explore how each poet conveys the pleasure of pain and love.

The anthology is about “Love and Loss”. Love is expresses in many ways. There is dedicated love where a person is dedicated to the person that they love, false love where a person is just having the person on, first love where a person instantly falls in love on first sight, brotherly love where a man loves another man like a brother for example in a war and also unrequited love where someone loves a person but the person does not acknowledge them. There are many types of love in the world today.

There is also Loss where there are many ways in where a person has lost someone or they have died. The poems that I have studied all contain some sort of love and loss. Most have love whereas some have loss. Some of them are mixed with love and loss as well. Love and relationships are used a lot in these poems. The poems that I am going to compare and convey pain and love are

  • “ When We Two Parted” by Lord Byron
  • “ Remember” by Christina Rossetti
  • “How Do I Love Thee” by Elizabeth Barret Browning
  • “ A Birthday” by Christina Rossetti
  • “ La Belle Dame Sans Merci” by John Keats
  • “ First Love” by John Clare

In “When We Two Parted” a man talks to his ex-lover about how they separated from each other and that they had an affair together. He tells her that he is deeply upset and that he hears her name everywhere from other people describing her actions of what she does about sleeping with other men. He is humiliated to hear her name spoken badly of and that he feels shame when someone else mentions her name. He cannot reveal their secret and regrets having an affair with her. He says that if they should ever meet he will with anger.

In “Remember” a woman talks about how she is going away and that she wants her lover to remember her when she is gone. But then she says if you forget me don’t cry for me and to continue with your life.

In “How Do I Love Thee” a woman tells a man about how she loves him and the ways in which she does. She sys that she will love him as much as her soul has a need to reach and she will love him also after death.

In “A Birthday” a woman is describing to the audience about her birthday and what feelings she has as well as what will be at her birthday party. She is also excited because her lover is going to come home.

In “La Belle Dame Sans Merci” a man finds another man near a like walking alone and the man reveals his tale about himself being a young knight who finds a young woman and is seduced by her looks and ways. He takes her on his horse and then finds himself he has never been before. The woman feeds her food that he has never eaten and then sung him a song and he then went to sleep. He had dreams about people and that they warned him about the woman. He then awoke and found himself where he is at the present time alone.

In “First Love” a man tells the audience how he first met a girl and instantly fell in love with her. He describes her feelings towards her. He stares at her and she comes over to ask if he is ill and he replies that he isn’t and then she walks away. He tells the audience it cannot be repeated again.

The pain of love is where there is love but it all ends in pain and sadness. The poems that I am going to use to convey the pain of love are

  • “When We Two Parted”
  • “ Remember”

The poem “When We Two Parted” had four stanzas and an abab cdcd rhyme. It was written by Lord George Byron and this is interesting because society does not expect men to express their feelings so openly especially love in such an emotional way.

The poem “Remember” has no stanzas and is written as a long paragraph. It was written by Christina Rossetti. It is a sonnet as it has 14 lines and 10 syllables in each line.

 I think the poet Lord Byron has called this “When We Two Parted” because the events that are in this poem may have actually happened to him in real life. From the title “When We Two Parted” I think that the poem is going to be about a relationship that has broken up in pieces e.g. “we parted”. This tells the reader that it is about 2 people splitting up. The poet sounds like he is addressing it to the woman in the poem. I know this because it says “Pale grew thy cheek and cold”. This tells me that he is not addressing me but the woman.

I think that Christina Rossetti called this poem “Remember” because that in her earlier life because of her grandfather who published her poems when she was younger into a book. In “Remember” I think that a person has gone and that they do not want the other person to remember them judging by the title. The poet is addressing the person “Remember me when I am gone away”.  

The poet conveys the pain of love as he says “when we two parted in silence in tears”. This suggests to the reader that they split up with the woman being silent and the man crying in tears. Tears suggest in this break up that it was a very sad event for the man. In my opinion this tells me that the man was in very much pain if he was crying as men do not normally cry and only do when something very emotional has happened to them. In the first stanza it also says “half – broken hearted” telling the reader that the man is upset but not as very much. Her cold reaction shows that their split will affect him later on “truly that hour foretold sorrow to this”. This tells the reader that he will be sad later on. Also it says “pale grew thy cheek and cold” suggesting that before the split up the woman was growing colder towards him as not loving him that much anymore.

The poet in “Remember” conveys the pain of love even though they are not quite as painful as the ones in “When We Two Parted”. The woman says “Gone far away into the silent land”. This tells the reader that she is going to go far away where there is silence.

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The love in “When We Two Parted” is unrequited as the man loves the woman but the woman does not love him back and uses him. The poet conveys this by “thy vows are all broken”. This tells the reader that the woman has broken all her promises to him. In the second stanza pathetic fallacy is used as it says “the dew of the morning sunk chill on my brow”. This morning is related to what the man feels when he wakes up and that is sadness.

The poet conveys the pain of love in “Remember” ...

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