There are many diseases and infection around the world, many of cannot be cured. Most of the ones that cannot be cured can be transmitted during sexual intercourse. We call these Sexually Transmitted Diseases/Infections. If you have sexual intercourse outside marriage you will most probably have it with someone who you really don’t know at that well. If you don’t know a person you will not know what type of disease which they may have, especially if they have some big incurable disease, this can really put you off the idea and therefore they keep it secret. Whereas if you know a person, most probably in marriage both of you will have opened up to each other and will know almost everything about each other, you make it your own risk.
Sex is a gift that you receive from God and shouldn’t just be wasted with anyone. It is reserved for marriage. Marriage is a very important and special gift that you create in front of God. Sex is reserved for marriage as marriage shows that the couple are committed to each other. It should be part of an intermit and loving relationship, other wise it cheapens the value of it.
Sex outside of marriage can make it feel cheap and devalues you the price of love when you come to share it with a person you truly love. It demotes the idea that you will share and show your love with a person which you truly love.
If you have sexual intercourse with more than one person it can really devalue what love really is and what it means to share it with another person.
If you have sex regularly outside of marriage you can almost become to feel like a 2nd hand good, or the town bicycle, everyone’s had a go!
Marriage is one of the ultimate signs of love along with sex. These two should go hand in hand, therefore sex, the ultimate gift that a couple shares should only take place within a marriage.
Children should only be conceived within a strong and married relationship. Having sex outside of marriage you will always have the risk of conceiving a child. This will probably be an unplanned pregnancy.
The Church believes that the only place in which a child should be conceived is within a marriage relationship. The risk is always high and every one says ‘it can’t be me its my first time’ but it is what you get, by having sex outside of marriage you are going against the teaching of the Church.
In the Catechism 2353 the Roman Catholic Church says;
There are some occasions where sex has been classed as rape; this is usually outside of marriage. If a women is against sex and a man forces it upon her this is rape. This doesn’t normally happen within a marriage because the couple are aware of each other and won’t force it upon the other
Against
Some people see marriage as a trap, once you’re in there is no way out, even if it is a mistake, you are stuck for life. If this is the case then why should they have to suffer by not being able to share their love and emotions with each other by having sex.
They want to be able to share their emotions and to have sex with a person whom they truly love, like they would in marriage but they can’t because they are trapped in their old marriage.
Some people know themselves really well, some people just know that they can’t commit for what ever reason. They know that if they were to get married that some time along the way they will commit adultery and have sex with another person who they might not necessarily love. They might find a person whom they might love, but don’t want to get involved with marriage. They want to be able to show how much they love by sharing a precious gift that they have.
There is no set rule that says to love someone you have to be in marriage. Many people who live their lives outside of marriage do have feelings and do love others. They want to be able to show their feelings and emotions as well.
The Church has made its views other many years. Their views have changed as time as gone along. However no matter how modern the Church may try to be it will always be out of date.
This is why some people see the Church as out of date and not up to modern times and views. They therefore disagree with the church because of this reason.
Some people just want to experience love before they commit themselves. These people have heard how much marriage can hurt and don’t want it to happen to them. They want a trial marriage almost. They might find someone who they love and they might want to see what their reactions are to having sex. They want to experience it before they go into marriage and can mike up an opinion of what to do.
My Opinion
I disagree and agree with some parts of the statement. I believe that sex should be kept for marriage because for all of the reasons which I gave in the FOR argument. However if someone truly loves someone outside of marriage, but doesn’t want to commit and has very good reason, like if they have already been in a marital breakdown and found it has been too , if they find someone who feels the same way then they should be able to have sexual intercourse.
We must remember that every ones views are all different. What we may see as the right answer other may see it as wrong. We must not hold things against people just because they may have a different view to ourselves.
James Mitchell Page 08/05/2007
