Another disadvantage with living with others is that there are occupational risks. These is when you are living with others, so you can’t always do what you want to do, you have to take into consideration other people. This can be incredibly frustrating as you may really want to do something but cannot because of other people. An example of this is maybe when you want to watch a really good program on T.V but your parents want to watch the daily news. Occupational risks may also be when someone you live with does things or behaves in a way which you really don’t like and there is nothing you can do about it except tell them to stop being so annoying. The Bible takes this into consideration in Malachi 2:10, “Don’t we all have the same father? Didn’t the same God create us all? The why do we break our promises to one another, and why do we despise the covenant that God made with our ancestors?” It’s not easy to all just get along perfectly.
Some families just can’t settle their differences and may split up: “If a man finds something displeasing in his wife he can then write her a certificate and divorce her”- Deuteronomy 24:1. Often the parents then remarry, which may be good or bad depending on which family member you are. If you are the remarrying parent, you would think this was quite good as you may feel younger and happy to marry the person you have come to love. The new relationship may work out better than the previous one: “Paul said, <It is better not to marry if possible, but if you burn with passion, then marry>”- 1 Corinthians 7:9. On the contrary, if you are one of the children, you may feel pressured. Perhaps you would think the break-up was your fault, which would make you feel terrible. You may find it stressful and find it difficult to fit in with the new family especially if a new child is born; you may feel left out. Or your new step-parent may treat you like your own, which is considerate of them but you don’t like it. Or you may all not get along which may be awkward. Rules and relationships may change as people that are not together grow apart usually; this may cause a split down the middle of the family and open up ways to play the parents against one another to get your own way. Also, if you don’t see a parent as much, when you do see them, they won’t want to discipline you, instead they will want to spend time with you. Although it is hard, they should all try to love each other as the what has happened cannot be reversed, “John said, <Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God>”- 1 John 4:7.
It isn’t all bad though, a split up could be better if it works out and people are happier that way. It could work and it is easier to be friends than hate each other.
