In the very early stages of my school life, my parents (especially my mother) where important in helping me studying and organising myself. They also helped me learn things that I had to know by heart. However in the secondary school, certain things could not be learned by heart and I had to learn how to study on my own without the help of anyone else. I rarely asked my parents for any help, and if I had a difficulty, I used to ask my sister but not my parents. The role of the parents diminished drastically as years went by. In fact my parents did not effect the results of my O-Levels whatsoever.
However, if parents’ do not take interest in the studies of their children there can be some negative consequences. This might result in students’ lacking interest in their studies. If they are not provided with the necessary material such as books and stationery by their parents how can they study? If children are not motivated to study by their parents in the early years of the primary school how can the children study later in the secondary school?
From personal experience, and from what I noticed from my classmates in the previous years, I do not think students study because of their parents. If students do not want to study, no matter what type of parents you have, they do not study.
If they want to skive a lesson they just skive it without any thought that they will miss the notes or do not understand the particular topic. One studies because he wants to study himself and not because he is imposed to do so.
The causes of bad grades are not bad parents but unwillingness to study, wrong methodology of study or certain problems in the family or in your friendships which are preventing you from studying. Paying attention in lessons is not something which parents can impose on their children. After all, examinations do not reflect the two weeks study before examinations but also their attention during lessons. Personally, I believe that the solution to obtaining good grades is not studying but also attending and paying attention during lessons. I consider studying as a secondary thing.
In my opinion, parents might have an effect on the grades of their children only in the very early stages of life. However, since examinations are done by the children and not by the parents their role is minimal. Later, especially from the secondary school onwards it depends upon the students themselves whether they want to study or not.
