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Influencing People Everyday

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Elizabeth Soniat March 30, 2004 2nd Period Book Review Influencing People Everyday "How To Win Friends And Influence People" by Dale Carnegie starts with an enticing story of "Two Gun" Crowley. The opening issue is about handling people, "If You Want To Gather Honey, Don't Kick Over the Beehive." Carnegie acquaints you with the story of two of America's famous criminals in history, Al Capone and Crowley, and how they never blamed themselves for the many lives they took. Al Capone was actually quoted as saying that "I have spent the best years of my life giving people the lighter pleasures, helping them have a good time, and all I get is abuse, the existence of a hunted man." Carnegie then explains how these notorious criminals can be blameless in their minds simply because people do not criticize themselves. These stories surprised me in the fact that these criminals actually made these statements. I actually spent the time to verify this because I could not understand how someone could possibly say something so utterly immoral. ...read more.


However, they expect the opposite reaction from others. Carnegie uses a perfect quote for this section. People do not realize it but caring about themselves only harms people rather than benefits them. The third section discusses winning people to your way of thinking. Carnegie states that an argument cannot in fact be won, but only convinces the opposing sides that they are even more correct. So it is suggested to avoid arguments rather than arguing until one side is embarrassed and angry when proven wrong. Someone once said, "A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still." This quote very merely states that when someone is confronted with an argument they will end up still of the same opinion they began with. According to Carnegie there is only one way to win an argument and that is to avoid arguments. Carnegie makes perfect sense in this section. People will argue more and more when you stick to your opposing opinion. However, when someone simply agrees with you and backs down on their argument, it makes you feel surprised and unsure, possibly changing your stand on the debated topic. ...read more.


Lincoln put the letter away when he was finished with it because he realized the letter would do no good for the country or General Hooker. President Lincoln was shot soon after that and the letter was never sent to General Hooker, but was found and kept to this day. The last section is so applicable to anyone's life, no matter what scale it is on. From a president to a general, or even a teacher to a student, it is the same reasoning. Every student thrives on praise, either from teachers or parents. I know that when I get poor grades its seems that my dad only focuses on those bad grades and they are constantly shoved in my face. When I get an exceptional grade on a test I still feel like a little kid bringing home a grade cause I want that little bit of praise from my dad. When I do bring home those grades and get one word of praise but a hundred words of criticism, it crushes that feeling of "I did so well". A little praise goes a long way, and little criticism goes a lot farther in a negative way. 1 ...read more.

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