How are attitudes to love and relationships presented in To His Coy Mistress, The Beggar Woman and The Seduction and what do they reveal about the roles of men and women?

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Rebecca White

How are attitudes to love and relationships presented in ‘To His Coy Mistress’, ‘The Beggar Woman’ and ‘The Seduction’ and what do they reveal about the roles of men and women?

The three poems I have looked at, ‘To His Coy Mistress’ by Andrew Marvell, ‘The Beggar Woman’ by William King and ‘The Seduction’ by Eileen McCauley, although all centring around the theme of love and relationships show very different perspectives on similar issues, their contextual differences mean that each poem is diverse even though all of them challenge the social society. However in the poems we can see some similarities in the representation of men and women with one theme being the portrayal of woman as prey in the eyes on men.

To His Coy Mistress’ by Andrew Marvell is a poem written from the perspective of a man talking to his lover, trying to persuade her to have sex with him as “time’s winged chariot hurrying near”. The poem presents his opinion that time is limited and that they must act now.

The poem is structured into three sections. The first is about ‘if’ with the man explaining the way he would do things if “had we but world enough, and time’. The second section is about ‘but’ where the man says that although this is what he wants to do, they don’t have the time. The third section is about ‘therefore’ in which the man says that because of this they have to be quick about things and, as is the style of this carpe diem poem, seize the day. This structure helps to reinforce his argument as in the first section he talks about all of the romantic things he would like to do and deliberately flatters her with line like “a hundred years should go to praise thine eyes”. By playfully seducing his mistress in the first section, he is setting up for her to be more likely to agree with his persuasion. His begins with seeming to accept her point of view, then he argues against it, and then dismisses it. This clear beginning, middle and end seems to show that as the argument finishes, he has won his mistress over although the poem does not show the mistress’s side.

The poem is written in rhyming couplets with a regular rhythm. This regular pace reflects the persistent development of an argument. It makes the poem seem more structured and reasonable which reinforces his argument. For example, if someone was trying to get their point across but it was not structured and just rambled, you would be less likely to agree. The rhythm of the poem changes, as in the beginning it is slow and speeds up as the poem progresses. It is almost as if the beginning is intended to relax the mistress.

Looking at the portrayal of the male and female roles in this poem, the mocking attitude the man in the poem takes and the wit he uses makes him seem to be the cleverer of the two. He assumes the woman wants a sexual relationship but she just has flirtatious hesitancy, because of this he is very sarcastic and mocks her, for example “for, lady, you deserve this state”. As Marvell writes the poem from the man’s perspective we get much more an idea of his character. The man is portrayed as impatient which makes it appear that his motivation is lust or desire rather than true love. Because of this, he could be described as selfish. Even though the woman herself does not appear in the poem her presence is felt throughout means she is portrayed as someone of importance to the man. The view on love and relationships in this poem is that the woman is prey, like in a great deal of literature throughout the ages. The whole poem is about winning her over, as if a woman is to be conquered. The woman is seen as naïve as the man uses blatant mockery which shows that the man sees himself as in control of their relationship.

In the context of To His Coy Mistress, the term coy is taken to mean that the female of the speaker is saying that she wishes to avoid him, all the while flirting with him. To counter this, in the first section of the poem, Marvell mocks the universal scenarios of courtship and romantic literature. For example “and you should, if you please, refuse, ‘till the conversion of the Jews”. Marvell uses a hyperbolic style to mockingly exaggerate typically romantic things. The poem is part of the carpe diem tradition, which means it a poem with the message ‘seize the day!’. This message can be seen throughout the poem in line such as “now let us sport while we may”. This idea to ‘seize the day’ and give into lust would have contrasted the cultural beliefs of the time as even though at this time the medieval churches were shifting away from their belief in celibacy, they placed emphasis on the importance of not having sex before marriage. This poem would have been quite controversial for the time.  Also, women in this time may have been seen as the weaker sex but the poem contrasts this as the woman appears to be in a greater position of power as she refuses to make love to him.

The Beggar Woman” by William King is a poem that tells the story of a gentleman out hunting who sees a beggar woman and consequently suggests that they go somewhere together with the idea that he has tricked her into having sex with him. However, once they are at the ‘unfrequented place’ he has taken her to, the woman tricks him into taking her baby, suggesting he looks after the baby for a year or two before fathering another. The poem highlights the consequences, particularly for females, of sex.

“The Beggar Woman” is a narrative poem which simply tells the story. This is a contrast to Marvell’s poem “To His Coy Mistress” which contains lots of imagery and metaphors and is written as a monologue. The poem is written in a conventional and popular structure of the time which is heroic couplets within regular stanzas. This makes the poem comical and as it has a ‘sing-song’ rhythm. It also has an iambic pentameter rhythm which makes it even more like a song or performance. The rhyming couplets add to the light-hearted feel of the poem and also make it memorable. Heroic couplets make the poem easier to perform. This street ballad style means the poem would have been intended to reach lots of people and to warn them about the consequences of sex.

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In this poem, initially the woman is portrayed as weak and powerless, like the popular pre-twentieth century literature idea of a woman being prey. This is idea is also seen in Marvell’s poem “To His Coy Mistress. The man is portrayed as being confident, for example “I have the matter sure”. However, when the woman manipulates and fools the man the man appears naïve and stupid, shown in the line “the gentleman had scarce time to know what she was doing”. The attitudes to love and sex in this poem show that the gentleman sees sex as immediate and frivolous ...

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