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Unwriteen rules of conversation

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Men and Women learn the 'unwritten rules' of conversation in the playground and continue to apply them decade after decade. To what extent do you agree with this statement The 'unwritten rules' of conversation are used by everyone at every moment of the day. We do not consciously know that we are using them, it is just second nature to us and we ensue them at all times, but if they were to be written on paper and taught to us what would these rules be, but furthermore would we then follow them, because the only reason that we follow them now is mainly because of the stereotypical values that it holds, for example women have to be more caring whereas men should not cry as it shows them as being weak, but these are all stereotypes so are they the rules that we should follow. All of the unwritten rules are split of into four different segments called maxims, which was first discovered by Herbert Paul Grice. The four maxims where Quantity (make sure the information is sufficient, not too much or too little), Quality (Do not lie, be literal, and only state something as a fact if u have evidence), Relation (make sure the contribution is relevant) ...read more.


So, if we follow this research, it should explain some of the stereotypes that are associated with the different genders. Firstly, one of the most obvious and easily explained ones, has got to be that women talk about feelings, relationships and personal problems whereas men talk about 'things', factual objects and subjects, e.g. sports and cars. Both of these are directly linked to what girls and boys do in the playground, women are used to sharing their thoughts so grow up and continue that and boys are competitive so are going to talk about sport as there are teams which means they still get to compete with each other later in life. Another stereotype that all of us hear every day, either being told about it or actually noticing it happening is that women talk more than men. Of course this is what we as men perceive to be true hearing our wives, mothers and girlfriends on the phone all day, but as proved by Fishman in 1990 men supposedly men talk twice as much as women. Now this to men and women I feel would be quite surprising even when telling my mother and aunts they are all so shocked by this. ...read more.


They are "A bald FTA", i.e. 'close your mouth you fat swine'. Next is a "FTA using positive politeness", i.e. 'You have such beautiful teeth. I wish I did not see them when you eat'. The third is a "FTA using negative politeness", i.e. 'I Know you are very hungry and that steak is a bit tough, but I would appreciate it if you would chew with your mouth closed'. Lastly is the "Indirect FTA", i.e. 'I wonder how far a person's lips stretch yet remain closed when eating'. All of these are examples of the FTA's something that we do not think about but just do it every day. As we seen a lot of our behavior as an adult seems to have deprived from our personality, which I believe has developed from what we have done as a child, with the friends we choose to have and how our family is around us. As we have all heard thousands of times, our minds are like sponges at that age so therefore what we do early in life affects later in life, physically but also mentally. ?? ?? ?? ?? Ben Pavesi English Language Miss Daly ...read more.

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