At school she has a lot of friends who will support her but it makes me wander because she has so many friends they influencing her to do things, I am starting to think her friends are a bad influence in the way she behaves towards me and her school work, this has been going on for quite a while now and I am starting to worry whether she is jeopardizing her future career, just because she wants to look ‘cool’. She may be under stress after last year when her dad left us both out of the blue, it must be difficult for her, but she is 15 and she should be able to cope, if she asked me for help I would give it to her, but this is part of the things we don’t do ‘talk’, I have problems of my own but I am willing to but them aside so that I can see what is happening to my daughter, no matter what the circumstances are, but if she caries on like this and in the future when she does need me, I wont be there, because that’s the way she wants it, if she wants to be treated as an adult fair enough.
nough.
Parent thinking of what to do when her daughter returns, running her fingers gently through her hair.
When she does get in its like a game, who can get the highest points out of arguing, and to be honest its really pathetic, I do stop the arguing but then she says something that starts me off again, then it turns into foul language, or she says more rather than simple straight answers. This time its serious, this has really got to stop!
Parent still sitting in the same place as before and then hears a big bang
Parent: Where the hek have you been, and what time do you call this?!
Child: I don’t need a lecture right now…so shut up!
Parent: Well your going to get one, and don’t ever talk to me like that again!
Child: Ill talk to you how I want and when I want, everything you say goes in one ear and out the other so don’t even bother wasting your breath.
Parent: I am trying here, cant you see, why cant we sort this out like a pair of adults, that’s if you want me to refer to you as an adult, calmly and rationally.
Child: In the morning maybe…. not now!
Parent: Why do you have to be like this? Do you get some sort of pleasure out of making me unhappy?
Child: answer me one question, why do you have to be so protective over me
Parent: That’s what parents are for, I do care, I just wish you would listen to me, its for you own good.
Child: That’s what they all say, its just another way out of an argument, which to be frantically honest I am winning.
Parent: Excuse me!
Child: Don’t you realize I have a life outside this house?
Parent: I do understand that you want to go out, but as long as your living here you obey by my rules, if I say to be in for 11 you WILL be in for that time, it’s the decision all parents have to make and the children should respect it.
Child: well you expect me in too early; I am not 10 years old you know! I’m sure by now you should be able to trust me.
Parent: Actually that’s the problem I am not sure whether I can trust you.
Child: Just deal with it I have a life and most of it doesn’t involve you, that’s the way it is and that’s the way its going to be and that’s the way its going to stay!
Parent: some people you can never compromise with, especially you! You have to be the most irritating child and the most awkward child that I know of!
Child: I may be irritating but at least I know what the word ‘fun’ is, some word you are obviously not familiar with.
Parent: I do have fun, but I know how far to push it, and you just don’t know when to stop, I’ve had enough we will talk about it in the morning when you are a bit less fragile and more mature shall we?
Child: Cant wait! Night
Parent: Night
Both go off to bed, of course not quietly, music is straight on full blast.
