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This has caused some concern within many families as they think that domestic helpers are damaging family relationships. The main concern is that the helper is usurping the role of the mother causing the child to bond with the helper

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Children want their Mums Employing a domestic helper in Hong Kong is considered a luxury and is a rapidly growing concept. They unburden the mothers with domestic chores and look after the children. However, this has caused some concern within many families as they think that domestic helpers are damaging family relationships. The main concern is that the helper is usurping the role of the mother causing the child to bond with the helper than the parents. However, I do not believe that employing a domestic helper is the cause of the weakening in family ties. I consider this to be the fault of the parents' organisation and management of the help received. By drastically changing their priorities and values can they attempt to resolve this problem. Even if the infant bonds with the helper instead of the mother in the critical years zero to three, this does not mean that the situation is irretrievable. ...read more.

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They want a clean diaper on the powdered baby and mantel piece gleaming, not dust mites dancing in the sunray. The expectations lead to sixteen hours a day and six days a week of work4. More than sixty percent of the maids5 working in Hong Kong come from a college background but given the condition of their country, they have to leave their family in order to support them. Families are caught in a rat race where the target, lifestyle, continues to rise. To obtain the luxurious items, parents end up spending minimum time at home with effects bonding time between the child and parents. This problem can be solved by managing the finance carefully. When getting a helper, the employer is responsible for paying for the round-trip air fare, passport, visa fees, food, housing and medical expenses like a health insurance policy and the wage, $3,670 per month6. This procedure uses up a lot of money. ...read more.

Conclusion

Parents have to give time rather than chocolate to the children for the trust between them to flourish. To conclude, I believe that it is not the domestic helpers who destroy family relationships but the misuse of their help. The helpers are there to relieve the parents of domestic chores allowing booth of them to earn money for luxurious living. The domestic helpers are also employed to care for the children. However, if the parents do not monitor closely whether they are spending sufficient bonding time with their children, the child could feel neglected and connect with the helper rather than the parents. 1 South China Morning Post - 26 Jan 1999, Too Many Mums for Comfort 2 South China Morning Post - 26 Jan 1999, Too Many Mums for Comfort 3 http://www.cnn.com/ - Study: Child-Mother Bond 4 Time Asia - Sunday 23 Dec 2001, Making the Poor even Poorer 5 http://www.batgung.com/drupal/helpers/ 6 http://www.colliers.com/ - Residential Leasing, Facts, Domestic Helpers 7 http://www.newsflash.org/12/ht/ht003058.htm/ 8 The Standard - September 27 2004, Maids' $13b Lift for HK 9 Article - Are We Losing Our Values? ?? ?? ?? ?? ...read more.

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