In the second section he starts off immediately trying to scare her with gruesome thoughts about death and what happens when the body decomposes. He starts off saying that he can always hear the time of death creeping closer and closer every day and that they’ve only got a limited amount of time left so take your chances while u can. He also says once they are dead they have got an entire eternity of vast emptiness which sounds quite worrying so this could shock her and make her think that she should make the most of their time while they’re alive. In the second sentence of the second section he says that her long preserving virginity will be lost to worms when she is dead because she will have started to rot away. This is backing up his previous argument why she should have sex with him, because she won’t be able to control what happens when she dead. This is all to do with the attempt of trying to scare her enough to make her think they should have sex. He also says that when she dies all of his lust for her will be turned into ashes which points in the direction that in the 17th century when someone died that person would be cremated. He explains that when she dies and is put in a grave she will be very lonely so she should be good company while she can be accompanied.
In the 3rd section he doesn’t try to scare her but just tells her how it is. He talks the truth but the clean truth; I think this is the only section he is actually talking straight. He is not trying to convince her by sweetening her into sleeping with him and he is not trying to make her picture horrific images about her death. This is probably the section that will get her to sleep with him because she knows it’s the honest truth. The only thing that will not help is that because he is no longer a virgin he knows how it feels and what happens, and because she is still ‘pure’ she doesn’t know. His experience means that he states the feelings within the section, which could put her off because it goes into a bit too much detail for a lady to approve. He describes the sex as fun and a sport. He explains it as,
Let us roll all our strength, and all
Our sweetness, up into on ball:
And tear our pleasures with rough strife
Thorough the iron grates of life.
To be honest I think this is a little too much detail for it to be in a newspaper, especially in the 17th century, because if this was for a lady to read she could possibly find it offensive or just too explicit. He then finishes off with saying if we did have sex we would have such a good time would just fly by and before we knew it the sun would have risen and a new day would have come.
In ‘One flesh,’ the language that is used is very much like language you would hear on the 21st century. This is mainly because it was written in the middle of the 20th century and the language hasn’t changed very much in 100 years. Elizabeth Jennings’ motive or reason for writing this poem was to try and express her frustration and her sorrow that her parents didn’t express their love and affection for one another physically. She doesn’t mean she wants them too have sex all the time but she would like them to feel comfortable with each other, talk to each other like a married couple should do, or at least feel comfortable kissing each other once and a while. I think, because her parents sound to be quite old, maybe they either know each other so well they almost know what each other is thinking or the love they used to have just isn’t there anymore. This is told to us when Elizabeth says:
Lying apart now, each in a separate bed,
He with a book, keeping the light on late,
She like a girl dreaming of childhood.
This suggests that they don’t feel comfortable even talking to each other or sleeping in the same bed as each other, which could resort back to the statement that there just isn’t any love left to exchange with each other. She then goes onto say that when the couple are lying in their separate beds they are doing their respected things, as if they want to talk and shares feelings but they can’t seem to find the words to say such things. When he is reading his book, he isn’t actually reading it, he is thinking of what to say or how he should express a certain thing. This means that the hardships are just going round in a vicious circle.
In the second section she keeps on talking about the sleeping arrangement, she comments on how cool they lie, not doing anything at all, not using any energy which could warm them up. This could be referring to them not having sex, their coolness, instead of the heat and passion generated during intercourse. She then goes onto say that when they do express they feelings it is very short, very sharp, and doesn’t last because it is almost as if they are confessing to one another that they still have some feelings. She also says that when this happens it could be a confession of not really having any feelings for each other or too many. I think if it were to be too many feelings for each other the reason the expressing is so stunted is because maybe because the sexual days are over they don’t really know how they should express their platonic feelings. Then she says that death awaits them and that their whole life is preparation for when they go to heaven or hell and that they will have prepared for being reunited in death. This shows that her parents must be quite elderly and close to death and that, when they meet, they will have remembered how to express those feelings.
In the third section she is referring to their relationship and how it is quite good although they don’t really show it at all. This is referring back to the second section when it is said that maybe they have not enough feelings for each other, or too many. Now they have a good relationship on the inside despite what is shown on the outside. “Strangely apart, yet strangely close together,” this says that maybe they know that they love each other so it doesn’t have to be expressed with words or actions. It then goes onto tell us that there is a comfortable silence between them, which could show their inactive sex life, this is like the other poem, their young relationship, not having sex but still loving each other. She then asks a question we’ll never know the answer to, but I’m sure she did. She asks that if they know they are old, which I’m sure they do but don’t feel as old as they truly are. Finally she says, “Whose fire from which I came, has now grown cold?” This is saying that when the relationship of her parents was a young, fiery, explosive one, has now grown cold. It could also be interpreted as the fire being the heat from the sex, which was when she was made, and has now grown cold, meaning there is no longer the sexual heat warming their bodies throughout.
These are two very different poems but they are questioning the same thing, whether or not the couple’s love each other to which I think in the first I think they could love each other but don’t just yet. In the second couple I think they know very well they love each other, they just have no need to express it physically.