what is self? The Perception of Self

Many psychologist believe that self concept plays a major role in the development of one's persons behaviour and personality.One way of understanding personality is to focus on one's personal-concept.Self-concept is the mirroring of one's personality attitudes and traits.It can be enhance and blossom by the revolving environment or subject to failure if one self didn't meet the challenging social environment.

An individual's self concept can greatly affect one's persons ability to cope and adjust and adopt to a changing environment.We creatively build our self concepts out of daily experiences.Then we slowly revise them as we have new experiences.Once we stabilize our self-concept it won't be difficult to flood along our inner self.We can also develop and maintain and focus ourself to guide us in what we intend to do,remember and think about.

People by nature are sociable.They always wanted to be part of the community.There's no such thing as individuality exist on it's own.People always needs somebody to interact with,pattern themselves and giving them feedback.Social roles plays one important role in the development of one's self.Their role in the society is paramount on the way they will behave and interact with somebody.They will need somebody to mirror themselves so they can unconditionally received the positive or negative feedback.People in nature always tends to compare themselves to somebody.Somebody they will look up and adore.This ideal self is forming out making them elated and highly unreachable.But sometimes people around are sceptical to help them achieve their goals in life.As some individual wants to be the best among everybody else.But if one's individual got a good self perception his or her ability to succed is paramount.It also takes a good self esteem to achieve things.,Ideal self,self image and true self should always go together to have a perfect balance of self.It makes somebody focus and socially resourceful.

Take an example of one of the psychologist Carl Rogers(1961),he based his study on his experiences in life.His argument is that people have two fundamental needs,receiving positive feedback from other people and to develop one's persons potentials and abilities.

It is always an argument that an unconditional love from one's parent is reasonably enough fro an individual to feel secure and to develop freely their activities or talents.They don't feel that they need to prove themselves to be socially acceptable.Thus forming their self image congruently with ideal self therefore high self esteem is visualize.

However, in some cases,individual needs to perform well,achieve a lot and be perfect to be socially acceptable.This doesn't give any positive regard to person's self concept and self image.As one mistake they will make,will ruin their self esteem.There is always fear of disappointment accompany this belief.This will develop in a very low self esteem.As this individual doesn't feel that they can explore their self development for a fear of social rejection.This individual tends to be insecure,suspicious ,confused,anxious and highly nervous most of the time.

For example,for argument sake ,a developing child whose always been calmly told ,if they made mistake we'll tend to be calmer and got long patience than those child being whipped,slap and spank all the time.Bullying is one good example of low esteem,they always get the people they think are very vulnerable and easy targets.They think that if they will do that, they will be socially acceptable with the fear of rejection.