During the school year we went to all the dances together and had the best time in all that we did. Throughout that year our relationship grew stronger and stronger. As time went on it seemed that Tricia was the “perfect girl” for me. After the school year ended, Tricia began getting ready to go off to college to the University of Texas at Austin. As the time for her to leave became closer, I did not want her to leave, but I knew she had to. We made the decision to stay together even though two hundred miles separated us from each other; however, we knew the difficulties that we might have.
On the day she left for college, I went over to her house to see her before she left. I enjoyed getting to see her one last time, but it made me sad to see her leave. Before she left, we promised each other that we would not let her moving off to college cause problems in our relationship.
We both knew that living in different towns would very different for us both. We talked to each other every day and missed each other a lot. After her first week off at college, I decided to go to Austin and visit her. I chose to go then on Labor Day weekend so I could see her over the long weekend. Once I got to Austin, we had the best time together. It was one of the most fun weekends I had ever had. Tricia and I had the best time together; when I drove home from Austin after the weekend, I could not wait to go visit her again.
Another week passed and we kept talking to each other on the phone and on the computer. Then for a couple of days I could not get a hold of Tricia on the phone or on the computer; however, I did not think much of it. Then after a few days with no contact with Tricia, she calls me shortly after I got home from school. From out of the blue she tells me that she wants to break up with me because she was having a hard time adjusting to college and meeting people and that she did not want to be held back from anything by a relationship. When she told me this I became speechless. I did not know what to say and it took me by complete surprise. I did not expect this at all, because I thought that we had a perfect relationship.
For the next couple of days after that, I did not feel like doing anything. I felt completely miserable. As days went on, things got better. I talked to Tricia more about the whole situation and it made me feel better about it, although I would have preferred to stay together. From this I learned a couple of things. I learned that I cannot control everything, even if it seems like I can. I also learned that things do not always work out like you want them to, even if it seems like they are going to. All in all, I learned a great deal from Tricia throughout our relationship, even from the breakup; I consider myself lucky to have known a girl like her.
