To be married or not to be married that is the 21st Century question

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"To be married or not to be married that is the 21st Century question"

"You don't marry someone you can live with, you marry the person who you cannot live without." (Carrie P Snow) But, a gamophobic Vidit Kalra asks "Why marry?"

'Once upon a time' we married to maintain political power, then to avoid war, then to ensure proper inheritance rites and then because it was socially the right thing to do, not forgetting that marriage was also for those who fell madly in love with one another. Now here, in the new millennium, we're supposed to marry for love, or are we?

There have been and still are many reasons for marriage and for what? Look around, we are not the only species on this planet that breathe, have internal organs like a heart, a brain, and act on instincts, and feel, are we? We are not the only species capable of loving, caring or mating. There are other animals in this kingdom if you hadn't noticed. I'll first take the monkeys and the apes (also known as humanoids) as examples, as they are our closest ancestors. The only difference between us and them is that we're smarter and we are supposed to be able to reason yet aren't we, the foolish ones, who believe in this notion of marriage. You don't see monkeys or apes who love one another walking down an aisle and saying 'I do!' in fact you don't see any other animal doing that, except us.

We can still love, mate and care as a species without the need for a formal, socially recognised contract, can't we? Just look at the other species that surround us. "So why, should we marry? Who invented such a ridiculous partnership?" I ask you.

Growing up, I have been myself as well as seen family, friends and most significantly the media, influence both young girls and boys, you and me, with the notion that one must marry. The media, "Oh my God!". They are peasants, idealising everything, for example the wedding of Kate Middleton to Prince William, I say, "Who cares and if you do, why do you care?" Because of the media's 'sincere' care and love for the royal couple and yourself (and of course their paychecks) they provide you with full coverage of their fairytale marriage. Their coverage shows and conveys to you what you would see and want to see, which are marriages and weddings as being, heavenly. "Let no one ever say that marriages are made in Heaven; the gods would not commit so great an injustice!" (Queen Marguerite of Valois, wife of Henry IV of France). Don't be fooled, their coverage is just a money making exercise.
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Then there are the women's magazines, Woman's Day; Dolly; Cosmopolitan. Have you seen them? Yuck, it is so disgustingly over the top and fake with images of newlywed couples happy, smiling and kissing, in wedded bliss or mad infatuation. Don't you see? The media is brainwashing you to believe in this marital bliss and that marriage in our lives must be an inevitability, but its not! "Hold on! Why is marriage perceived as blissful and harmonious? Is it because the media has influenced us? Or, is it the pressure from our parents, neighbours, friends in fact the whole ...

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