My objective for this paper is essentially to establish how the children are affected by divorce. Judith Wallerstien, who is known as an innovator in the research concerning divorce and its effects on children, conducted a major study in 1971. This partic
Throughout the ages, Christianity and the Fathers of the Christian faith have preached about the significance of a conventional holy marriage. Whereas in this religion divorce is strongly forbidden except in a small number of justifying circumstances. Divorce doesn’t only hurt the man and woman involved but it affects the psychological well being of the children involved. It is not my intention to prove divorce as a bad or an imperfect formation. My objective for this paper is essentially to establish how the children are affected by divorce. Judith Wallerstien, who is known as an innovator in the research concerning divorce and its effects on children, conducted a major study in 1971. This particular study was done on 60 families with 131 children and it lasted for over 15 years after the divorce. I am going to focus on the main psychological segment of the research.
However divorce does not appear to have consistent effects across all children and across all ages. Older children may be more sensitive to family conflict and feel more pressure to get involved, which could increase their risk for problems, but they also have more emotional resources to help them cope, which could decrease their risk. Younger children may have less ability to sense and get involved to stop arguments, possibly leading to less risk, but they also have fewer cognitive resources to make sense of events and emotions, possibly leading to higher risks. Thus, determining how any specific child will deal with a divorce requires understanding of the child's strengths and the demands of the specific situation. Seeing the parents after divorce resolve problems and disagreements, and recover from angry exchanges may be helpful to children. What may be most harmful are repeated, and more frequent, angry and conflicted exchanges that do not lead to resolution and greater peace. These can be especially horrible when they include name-calling, and revealing buried resentments in a moment of anger. This may even be compounded by high levels of conflict that existed in the family before the divorce. In high conflict families, the children become sensitized to anger and conflict, and thus are hypersensitive to it. Worst of all, however, is clearly verbal aggression that turns physical. Research has linked this to the greatest degree of behavioral and emotional problems.