One other highly relevant attribute to consider, is that we all come from different backgrounds, many of us are born in other countries and cultures. Not all women think the same way, and this is possibly the most difficult for a man to spot – ‘Who thinks that, and who thinks this.’ There is no question, those women who differ from us, cultural wise, may be the hardest to form a relationship with – Especially in a high school where everyone comes from different backgrounds - And yet we attempt again and again, to perceive and understand their thoughts.
One way we can seek the truth to whom and what personality this certain woman is interested in, is by using the power of observation. Observation is a clinical tool, helpful not only in the laboratory, but also in our daily life. Observing women can be a difficult and intimidating task. Being around women can help reduce the challenge, as it gives us the ability to use all five of our senses – Sight, hearing, smell, taste and touch. The key to observing women is remaining ‘cool and relaxed.’ By not giving anything away; we can continue our day normally, whilst also using our five senses in a more concentrated manner. We should not fear the sight of women; instead we should acknowledge it and use it to our advantage. When starting a conversation with relatives, we can observe how the woman is reacting to the situation. If minutes before, the woman was talking to her own relatives, yet is now suddenly silent, we can observe that perhaps she is the third type of woman – The ones who ‘sees’ with their ears. If the woman turns around, glances at you, and the next day continues the glancing and eventually starts the starring – She is perhaps the first or second type of woman. As men, it is important to know which type of women we are dealing with, so in the future, we know how to react appropriately to certain situations.
Another aspect of women to consider, is when you finally manage to ‘acquire’ a relationship with them, would it work out in the long-term? Generally many men think about women in the present, and not in the future. This could turn out to be a grave mistake. Other men tend to think that women need to have certain features that resemble our own, for a successful long-term relationship, but is that really necessary? Indeed it could be important, but would it matter if the woman had different features, different ways of thinking, and a completely different type of personality to you?
Think about it positively, in the sense that it would create new challenges for you; and could also change you as a person, in a good way. Perhaps women don’t have to be all that similar to us, perhaps they shouldn’t always enjoy our type of humor, but instead, give us something new in life. If you marry a woman you love, that shares the same personality you possess, would life really be enjoyable? Some men would answer by saying ‘yes’ others would answer by saying ‘no’, claiming that life would be too dull – And that a successful relationship is all about the challenge of solving problems together – But if you have the same personality, the same instinctive, would the challenge really be as great as it would be if you had someone else? Someone perhaps more courageous?
These are all thought provoking questions, giving men headaches all day long. One thing is certain however, and that is no matter how good you are, how much she loves you, and whether she is type one, two, or three – Nothing changes when it comes to playing the game.
“Men play the game; Woman know the score.”