John Donne - A Valediction Forbidding Mourning

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John Donne - A Valediction Forbidding Mourning

        At the beginning of ‘A Valediction Forbidding Mourning,’ the poet, John Donne, engages in a didactic lesson to show the parallel between a positive way to meet death and a positive way to separate from a lover. When a virtuous man dies, he whispers for his soul to go while others await his parting. Such a man sets an example for lovers. The separation of the soul from the body, and the separation of lovers from each other, is not an ending but the beginning of a new cycle. The poem ends with the image of a circle, the symbol of perfection (Hall’s 69, 297), representing the union of souls in a love relationship. This perfection is attained by parting at the beginning of the circle and reuniting at the point where the curves reconnect.

        According to Helen Gardner, the metaphysical poem takes the reader down a certain path, a fixed line of argumentation (17). This valediction, an act of bidding farewell, proceeds in the guise of a monologue in which a speaker attempts to persuade a lover to remain faithful during his absence. The monologue is dramatic in the sense that the stay-behind lover is the implied listener. Donne’s monologue is unique because he uses metaphysical comparisons to show the union of the lovers during their period of separation.

        Although the poem attempts to persuade the lover as an implied listener, it also speaks indirectly to the reader who is drawn into the argument. The speaker’s argument is supported by an implied reference to the authority of Greek philosophers and astronomers. According to Patricia Pinka, this use of esteemed authority to justify a view about love is a common unifying element throughout many of Donne’s Songs and Sonnets (50).

        It is probable that Donne wrote this poem for his wife, Ann Donne, and gave it to her before leaving to go abroad in 1611. Ann, sick and pregnant at the time, protested being left behind as her husband began a European tour with his friend, Sir Robert Drury (Parker 56).

        The poem begins with a metaphysical comparison between virtuous dying men whispering to their souls to leave their bodies and two lovers saying goodbye before a journey. The poet says, ‘Let us melt and make no noise.... ‘Twere profanation of our joys/ To tell the laity of our love’ (ll. 5-8). The word ‘melt’ implies a change in physical state. The bond of the lovers will dissolve quietly like the soul of a dying man separating from his body. ‘Noise’ refers to ‘tear floods’ and ‘sigh tempests’ that the speaker implores his love not to release (l. 6).

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        He continues by comparing natural phenomena to a love relationship, the ‘sigh tempests’ relating to the element of air, and the ‘tear floods’ to the element of water. He uses this hyperbole to demand that his lover remain stoic and resist any show of emotion upon his departure (ll. 4-8).

        Next, the element of earth is introduced. Earthquakes are perceived by everyone, and people often interpret them as omens of misfortune. It is understandable that an earthquake would be looked upon with fear because of its potential to ravage the land; ...

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